This seems to be an ongoing problem. When was the last time he romanced you? Made love to you? Treated you like someone he couldn't wait to sneak off with and ravish?
Wow, you seem to have such a great understanding of how my marriage works, Secret! Oh, wait.... no, you don't. You're making assumptions and accusations and basically coming off like an ass.
I agree with Phy that it sounded like he "slept all day with the purpose of missing the show" (since he thought it was a daytime thing), and then figured all along that would be a chance to go and have sex with his girlfriend.
Another baseless accusation based on your assumptions. The idea that I "purposely" slept through the show is simply ludicrous and insulting. If you had been paying attention to all of this blog, instead of just picking and choosing which parts to use to attack me with, you'd recall that Mo has Fibromyalgia - which means that when she sleeps, I
let her fucking sleep, period. Regardless of what's going on, unless it involves the apartment burning down. If she doesn't get the sleep she needs, she spends the next three to five days in agony, and no, getting her up to go to a car show just isn't worth putting her through that to me. Not much is. And as far as your comment about "he figured he'd have a chance to have sex with his girlfriend" goes - once again you're uninformed and making yourself look like an ass by juming to conclusions and trying to attack me. There was no "chance" to sleep with her. I knew that heading into this - she was taking care of a much younger sibling for her recently widowed father, who was out of town. Plenty of opportunities there to get laid, what with a kid running around and all. And I'm just the kind of guy who would pull Cookie away from her family obligations and leave the child unsupervised while having wild, loud sex in the other room. I'm just that kind of douchebag - or at least that seems to be the idea you're trying to get across any way you can. I certainly wouldn't have helped with dinner or cleaning up or anything like that - after all, I'm only there for the sex, right?
I wonder if he has a way to sweet talk you so you can't really see what games he's playing.
And what "game" would that be? Maybe you missed the part where
my wife knows I have a girlfriend, so I have NOTHING TO HIDE.
Another thing that would bother me is how inattentive ahe is and doesn't listen to you - you sent an email and talked to him about Saturday night being cooler, how is it that he didn't register that the cruise was at night?
Because out of the 14 emails Mo sent me in one hour with free things to do for dates, I remembered the times and dates for exactly zero of them after reading it all. Partly because I just suck with remembering things like that, partly because there were 14 different things to remember. I'm sure that makes me a horrible person too, doesn't it?
That just sounds like BS, to tell the truth. I would be suspicious.
Well of course you would. After all, it seems like your goal here is to make her suspicious, and the best way to do that would be to tell her that
you would be, in her situation- although I'm still a little shakey on what Mo should be suspicious
of, exactly. Suspicious that I have a girlfriend? Suspicious that I'm sleeping with her? I'll point out once again that she's well aware of those things. So what exactly am I hiding from her?
In following your thread, it appears the Karma doesn't work - is that correct? If money is an issue (I thought about you putting your last cigarette in the freezer this week), he should be focusing on getting a job instead of a girlfriend, I think.
And where the FUCK do you get off telling me what I should and shouldn't be doing with my life right now? You have no idea if I have been looking for a job, no idea what the job market here is even like, no idea what I'm going to school for or when it starts back up again.... basically, you don't have the first fucking clue about what's going on in my life. You know what I think YOU should be focused on? Finding something else to do besides trying to meddle in the lives of other people. Try it out, you might enjoy it.
This does not sound like a foundation of trust to build anything on. I know you have talked about not throwing away the relationship because of past problems, and how important it is to you to give him a chance - but I wonder if there will be a saturation point for you. How many chances does he get?
And this brings me to my point. Since you started posting here, you've had a highly antagonistic, hostile attitude towards me. Damn near everything you've posted has been intended to sow discord, distrust, and doubt in my marriage. I can really only think of a few reasons why someone - a few specific someones - would want to do that.
Normally I welcome opposed and differing points of view on here. Hell, I've lost track of the times Redpepper has put me in my place on this blog. No one else who has responded to this situation has gone out of their way to try to color persceptions of me the way you have - I have to wonder what your motives really are, although I suspect I know the answer to that already.