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Old 03-05-2018, 02:31 PM
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I hope this is not an intrusive additional thread. I simply didn't know where I could post a comment about the Polyamory.com which would be sure to reach everyone who would (should?) be interested. In any case, it seemed like we needed a place to talk with one another about these fora themselves.

I wanted, in particular, to mention the section of fora under the heading, Dating & Friendships. There seems to me to be a problem with it which could perhaps readily be solved. Here's the problem, as I see it. If you take for example the North America section, you will find that very many, probably most, of the threads in that section do not mention place names in their titles. To find out where in North America these posting come from, one has to click and read that thread. Other threads do include place names, either cities or states, etc., but these are multiple in a very, very long list of such posts. It would take a long while to even determine how many folks are posting from Colorado, for example, or Denver.

My proposal would be to pin one each of threads with a simple state or province name to the top of this forum -- ideally in alphabetical order. Large cities such as New York or Las Angeles could have their own pinned threads under states and provinces.

By making this section more orderly--and thus useful--in this simple manner, it would likely receive more use.
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Old 03-05-2018, 09:12 PM
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I am thinking it would be hard to list the threads in alphabetical order, but I might be wrong.
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I'm thinking that section is not used enough to bother with it.
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Old 03-06-2018, 04:07 AM
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It seems like people go to that part of the forum to post, but not so much to read the posts that are already there. It's like a one-way street. The people who read those posts the most are people like us, who post in the rest of the site. It's ironic because here is where real-life relationships actually do form sometimes. But you have to be disposed to stick around and put some effort into you know, relating to people as though there are real human beings somewhere in there.
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I believe the original intent of the Dating & Friendships area was to keep drive-by personal ads from popping up all over the place and to act as a unicorn hunter containment zone. Actually hooking people up with each other was at best a tertiary consideration.
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Old 03-06-2018, 01:06 PM
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I'm thinking that section is not used enough to bother with it.
In my opinion, it's not used much because it is basically not usable. Real life relationships are geographically based. It could take a long time to find the posts there from any given town or city.
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Old 03-06-2018, 01:41 PM
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I believe the original intent of the Dating & Friendships area was to keep drive-by personal ads from popping up all over the place and to act as a unicorn hunter containment zone. Actually hooking people up with each other was at best a tertiary consideration.
I'm glad to hear this explanation because that section is (to me) pretty skeevy - or a mild amusement, to be charitable. The beauty of this forum is that we're an online community, not a hookup site, and that to get much out of this place, a person really needs to have a basic interest in the actual people who regularly post here. It's obvious that the people who stick around and participate are the ones who are enriched by this place. Ref2018 is right that IRL relationships/friendships can evolve out of the online interaction, but only when they involve actual participants in the discussions. If ran the world, that section would get the Red Button.
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Old 03-06-2018, 02:21 PM
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I'm glad to hear this explanation because that section is (to me) pretty skeevy - or a mild amusement, to be charitable. The beauty of this forum is that we're an online community, not a hookup site, and that to get much out of this place, a person really needs to have a basic interest in the actual people who regularly post here. It's obvious that the people who stick around and participate are the ones who are enriched by this place. Ref2018 is right that IRL relationships/friendships can evolve out of the online interaction, but only when they involve actual participants in the discussions. If ran the world, that section would get the Red Button.
The folks who participate in the main discussion areas are literally from all over the world. For this reason, it's very unlikely that we're going to meet folks from our own neck of the woods in there. Some of us live in small cities in sparsely populated states where poly folk are as rare as a two-headed whip-poor-will. You can't blame us for wanting to improve our odds of connecting with poly-friendly folk.
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Old 03-06-2018, 02:29 PM
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It seems like people go to that part of the forum to post, but not so much to read the posts that are already there.
That's because it is designed to fail. It's design is so user-unfriendly that it deserves FallenAngelina's Big Red Button treatment.

If you took the Encyclopaedia Britannica and tore out all of the pages, then thoroughly randomized those pages and glued them back into the bindings ... that's how that place is designed. That's why no one reads there.
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That's why no one reads there.
No - no-one reads there because this isn't a hookup site and that's the level of all those "discussions." Most of the people who start threads there don't say boo in the active sections of this place and it's clear that they're looking for partners only, not to contribute or be part of anything here. "Loving couple looking for our third" is not really the point of this forum - in my opinion. There's a perfectly good place for that and it's called OKCupid. This is a place for ongoing, community discussion, not for finding sex/love partners, although if it happens naturally out of the discussions, then wonderful. You can re-arrange the furniture in that section all you want, but it will always be a ghost town because the people who start those threads are all just passing by - and thankfully so.
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