MsEmotional
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You guys seem suited for poly, but perhaps not kink.
That's funny. I feel exactly the opposite. I think neither of us feels well-suited for poly. Laptop always tells me that I'm clearly poly -- that I am more poly than most of the people who call themselves poly. But at the end of the day, I don't seem to be great at doing all the processing. Like, I think about stuff and I analyze myself a LOT -- but it doesn't really change the way I feel. I cannot reason myself out of my feelings the way that other people seem to be able to.
Ponytail doesn't seem particularly poly either, but for different reasons. He frequently talks about how he doesn't think he can maintain more than one relationship, that he doesn't even necessarily consider himself polyamorous, but more just non-monogamous in general. He values friendship and intimacy and being part of the kink community. So he wants to connect with other people and the way he does that best is through being open to scenes and intimate contact.
Maybe we are just incompatible. Pontyail thinks we have the skills to figure this out, but I'm starting to wonder if there's just no way around it. I did a jealousy activity today and my "causes mild jealousy" scenarios (Ponytail telling someone else that he loves them, for example) and my "causes severe jealousy" scenarios (Ponytail getting an erection while with someone else) were totally opposite of what seems to be the norm for poly people, and definitely opposite of what Ponytail wants from non-monogamy.
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