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Old 10-18-2011, 10:03 PM
cmtrujillo76 cmtrujillo76 is offline
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Unhappy Can this work out

Well, a little about my wife and I. My wife and I have been married for 16 years and we have 5 wonderful kids (yes, I said 5). In the beginning of our relationship my wife was never open to the idea of having a partner in our life, and this was something I was ok with. Well we started talking about having another man in our lives about 5 years ago, but it was 2 years ago that we actually acted on our thoughts. Well the first guy never worked out expecially when we found out he was dating another person behind our back and he later made it clear he wanted to take my wife away from me. We later found a divorced man who also has 2 kids and a year ago we entered into a relationship.

This relationship has had it's ups and downs expecially considering he is not willing to let his daughters know about us yet. He has made suggestions about moving in together but our concern is that is daughters will flip considering this has been going on a year. On the other hand our kids love this guy and refer to him as their second father. Heck we have even started talking about having another child which he would be the father.

My probelm is that he tends to spoil his daughters to the point of them running him ragid. It is not unusual for him to get off of work and have to run his kids everywhere, thus leaving no time for us. At first this was fine, but now it is to the point my wife and I feel left behind. We have tried to talk to him about this, but he indicates he is trying and he does love still love us. We do love him as well, but should we accept he has to much on his plate and move on with our life?

Last edited by cmtrujillo76; 10-18-2011 at 10:19 PM. Reason: forgot 1 part
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