Breathesgirl
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This is a jump off from My Love Language Profile
LusciousLemon said
To which I reply: I normally work days, 7-3, so it hasn't really been a huge issue until the last few weeks. Work is dicking me around & I'm in the process of getting it resolved.
I do go to bed at, or near, the time Breathes goes to bed so we can snuggle. I'm thinking I'm going to have to ask for a rearrangement of time resources until this can be settled.
Even weekends are full with kids activities and running around we need to do during the week but can't for various reasons so that's not quality time.
This Sunday though . The Everything To Do With Sex Show is in London &, if our friend can, we are going! WOOT! It's also our date night, unfortunately son's hockey game falls right in the middle of that & since Breathes won't go with me to a despicable hockey game, our one on one time will be cut very short.
We'll work it out eventually. Communication, communication, communication!
So, how do the rest of you get your needs met when circumstances beyond your control put a not nice kink in your nice, normal, every day routine?
LusciousLemon said
I work days (though I do work from home now, but that only started last November, so take that as you will) and hubby works afternoons/nights. We've been doing this for 3 years now, and the two before that it was simply reversed. My results are similar to yours in needing physical touch and quality time. Our big thing is, even though he usually has to wake me up when he gets home, we always always kiss goodnight and goodbye. But it's not a simple peck running out the door, we do a huge long hug/kiss goodbye. At night it's a half awake kiss, but it makes a difference.
Days off are required to be at least 50% family time (gets our quality time in), and his evenings off we try to cuddle in bed and talk, filling both needs.
We don't have any other relationships currently and looking at this I have to wonder what we're thinking trying to venture poly, but odds are any other partners would have the same schedule as one of us right? Heh, it would be my luck that one or both of us would fall for someone who works 3rd shift.
To which I reply: I normally work days, 7-3, so it hasn't really been a huge issue until the last few weeks. Work is dicking me around & I'm in the process of getting it resolved.
I do go to bed at, or near, the time Breathes goes to bed so we can snuggle. I'm thinking I'm going to have to ask for a rearrangement of time resources until this can be settled.
Even weekends are full with kids activities and running around we need to do during the week but can't for various reasons so that's not quality time.
This Sunday though . The Everything To Do With Sex Show is in London &, if our friend can, we are going! WOOT! It's also our date night, unfortunately son's hockey game falls right in the middle of that & since Breathes won't go with me to a despicable hockey game, our one on one time will be cut very short.
We'll work it out eventually. Communication, communication, communication!
So, how do the rest of you get your needs met when circumstances beyond your control put a not nice kink in your nice, normal, every day routine?
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