Focusing on Prof...
We met Sunday for brunch, checkout the tent and a quick fuck. Didn't talk about Ms. Text much at all. Just that he is trying to return to normal very slowly. I was surprised about the sex, but he initiated so I responded
Saw him last night for a movie, first time at the cinema together ever, then some food and chat and back to mine to watch tv ( more screen time but whatever ) and he stayed the night and slept the whole night.
There was actually a lot of talk between the start of the movie, eating and then bed time. I did my usual blethering about the kids and what I was up to and planning. Rather bizarre part is that Prof wants to get involved.
As we know getting him to commit to anything is nigh on impossible due to the rules, so to actually have him ask to join in instead of me asking and getting the brush of is extremely peculiar. He wants to join us camping in the summer. I was like "really?"
. 2 small kids and lots of dirt? I was incredulous to his face. He is all keen to join for at least a few days.
I changed my home phone and number so I could save some more money for my "rum drink in coconut shell" vacation. He is all keen to go to Hawaii, might even pay???? He has a weekend trip out of state this weekend, wanted me to go with him. I have kids and Joe so said no, he wants to book something for the weekend after. I said do it.
My 2 are interested in becoming ninjas and I have been discussing my search for something that I can afford for the 2 of them to do. Prof used to do Aikido, and just sent me an email, as in email with more than 2 sentences!!!!! with links for local dojos, little story about his Aikido experience and would the kids and I like to go and watch him take a class. ????? He hasn't done Aikido for years and seems suddenly keen to get back into it. He also found a 4 day intro thing over the summer which is not too pricey. So he has spent time looking into this for us.
There were a lot more little moments too, a more insecure side that I rarely get to see. Almost a little, "Can you take care of me and can I join in?
What are we getting from this? Some clutching at straws? Major partner replacement? Freed from the rules so able to join in as he has always wanted too? Probably all of the above to some degree.
I think I am providing constant and familiar.
It is somewhat overwhelming for me. I am used to us discussing plans that rarely overlap. To actually have him want to participate and for me to join him is not what we do.
There were 5 outright asks and one implied. As always, I will carry on and do what I have planned and if he wants to join then is welcome, and if he doesn't then nothing new. I will see if he actually arranges something for next weekend.