This is my first post here, and I'll try to keep it to the point. I am married, my husband has a long-term girlfriend, but neither of them are relevant to the story. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. Just over a year ago I started dating a woman who became my girlfriend, I introduced her to my boyfriend and they started dating. Then their spouses also started dating. Fairly quickly the four of them started to make plans and go on vacations as a foursome, often leaving me out. I still had a great one-on-one relationship with both my BF and my GF, but I have struggled immensely with feeling left out of the group dynamic. I asked if we could do more triad activities, but my GF felt uncomfortable going out in public with the three of us, she prefers a quad dynamic to a triad dynamic. About a month ago I finally broke up with my GF because I was tired of feeling like an after thought, and her response was "yeah, I think you wanted this to be more than it was." I was pretty crushed.
I'm still with my boyfriend, and he's been ok, but empathy is not one of his strengths. I feel like I would have been able to handle this better at a more opportune time, but my husband is out of town for 6 weeks for work, and I'm in the middle of recovering from knee surgery (ACL reconstruction, 2 days post-op). I feel a bit like my entire poly support system has crumbled just when I need it most (my boyfriend is traveling with my ex-gf and their spouses this week).
Has anyone else been through something similar? I'm seriously struggling right now, and my physical pain and immobility is making it ten times worse. Thanks for letting me vent.
I'm still with my boyfriend, and he's been ok, but empathy is not one of his strengths. I feel like I would have been able to handle this better at a more opportune time, but my husband is out of town for 6 weeks for work, and I'm in the middle of recovering from knee surgery (ACL reconstruction, 2 days post-op). I feel a bit like my entire poly support system has crumbled just when I need it most (my boyfriend is traveling with my ex-gf and their spouses this week).
Has anyone else been through something similar? I'm seriously struggling right now, and my physical pain and immobility is making it ten times worse. Thanks for letting me vent.