I had a super nice meet n' greet OKC date last. It went so well, made plans for the next date etc.
We were walking back to my car, got to the corner of the car park, and I said "Here is fine, thanks" He said, "I will walk you the whole way." I said "No, that's fine you have a dinner to go to, here is good." He said I will take you to your car, I said I would rather people not know what car I drive, it is for personal safety He said, "Why?" I explained a little about the nature of my work and protecting your address and car. Colleagues have been followed, threatened, cars smashed up etc and I carry that over into the regular world. He was quite offended that I would put him in the same group as my work and that I didn't trust him enough to let him to walk me to my car.
I also had no other information about him other than first name and out of state phone number and probably the company he worked for. I felt saying goodbye in a busy area was best. It is what I usually do. I also leave as much detail ( time meeting, place) as I can with my friend who has password to my OKC account. Text when I leave, text when I am on my way home, and text when home.
Roomie suggested that he probably wanted a kiss, but overreacted. Other friend said he thought it was a bit weird but wouldn't really think twice about it. Prof agreed not letting strangers know what you drive is smart.
What do you think? An overly safety conscious rule or a red flag that the dude was offended?
There will be no second date. Just curious as to how other people handle dating safety.
We were walking back to my car, got to the corner of the car park, and I said "Here is fine, thanks" He said, "I will walk you the whole way." I said "No, that's fine you have a dinner to go to, here is good." He said I will take you to your car, I said I would rather people not know what car I drive, it is for personal safety He said, "Why?" I explained a little about the nature of my work and protecting your address and car. Colleagues have been followed, threatened, cars smashed up etc and I carry that over into the regular world. He was quite offended that I would put him in the same group as my work and that I didn't trust him enough to let him to walk me to my car.
I also had no other information about him other than first name and out of state phone number and probably the company he worked for. I felt saying goodbye in a busy area was best. It is what I usually do. I also leave as much detail ( time meeting, place) as I can with my friend who has password to my OKC account. Text when I leave, text when I am on my way home, and text when home.
Roomie suggested that he probably wanted a kiss, but overreacted. Other friend said he thought it was a bit weird but wouldn't really think twice about it. Prof agreed not letting strangers know what you drive is smart.
What do you think? An overly safety conscious rule or a red flag that the dude was offended?
There will be no second date. Just curious as to how other people handle dating safety.