I've actually had a lot of interesting stuff happening in this department lately.
I have my husband, who I have been with for five and a half years. We started out using condoms and eventually moved to not using them once I cleared my body of HPV I had picked up during an irresponsible moment my freshman year of college. He and I have pretty similar safety standards, and mostly only require barriers for vaginal or anal sex, but not for oral sex. Neither of us are terribly promiscuous or given to engaging in sexual activity with complete strangers.
I also have a boyfriend that I have been seeing since about last September. He is one of those pushy types and has repeatedly violated boundaries of mine (initiating skin to skin genital contact without a condom even if he didn't insert) and has a history of lying to his wife about safer sex practices. He doesn't want to have discussions about standards for safer sex, and feels like everybody should just trust him to make decisions in their best interests. For a while, I considered fluid bonding with him, but after finding out about more deception by omission on his part and the fact that he refuses to have an adult discussion about it, have taken it off the table between me and him. He and his wife used to both be incredibly promiscuous, although they've both cut back on that a bit since we've known them as far as I can tell.
Now I have someone else I am getting close to. He and I have been romantically getting closer to each other for the past six months, and haven't had sex at all. His sexual safety standards are higher even than mine and my husbands, and we have had many safer sex discussions in the meantime. This particular guy has a lot of trouble with condoms in general, but has never once pressured me to do anything I wasn't ready for and has generally waited for me to come to him. He has had a very small number of sex partners over the course of his lifetime.
I think there is a difference between disliking condoms and pressuring your partners not to use them against their own comfort and disliking condoms and accepting the difficulty that might present to you in getting sexual partners on board with that. With the boyfriend I've been seeing since last September, it makes me uncomfortable because he doesn't seem to respect my wishes and boundaries, and only makes a show of doing so to get his way. He tries to get away with things whenever he can, and isn't above being dishonest in order to get what he wants. With the newer guy, I have felt extremely safe and comfortable, building a slow relationship over months before we ever move to sex.
This is causing some contention between my husband and me, because he wishes to keep fluid bonding exclusive to the two of us. I have told him that I do not want that, even before we got married and he told me that he'd still like to continue the relationship, knowing I would likely make that choice with someone someday. It isn't an easy choice for me, especially after having had an STD. Now that I feel I may be ready with the new guy, he is balking.
But ultimately I guess what I wanted to offer is that not everyone who hates condoms is a pushy asshole about it, although there are plenty of those. There are people who hate condoms who know how to be very responsible and respectful about it.