Belladonna
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Hello
Long time since I have been active here.
Anyway, I am married. Have been together for 17 years. We have a mutual friend pip. Best friend actually. We do everything together. We have for well over a year now, actually going on two years. Pip is very involved in our life and we are in hers. Meaning we fix things in each others houses, holidays have been shared (we trick or treat at her house with my kids and my adult kids and their family)(we also shared valentines day all together this year). Pip knows our children very well and they love her (she snuggles with my daughter and trims her bangs) so our family is already very meshed with hers.
Fast forward to the past week. Things have happened (her and my husband danced) very intimately. So we are now talking what that means. She is straight but we have strong feels for each other. We do each others hair, lock arms when we walk and we are even now talking about sharing clothes. But they (pip and husband) would like to get physical.
So here is where I am at. They are both mono. He has no interest in dating her alone, she has no interest in dating him alone.
The synergy that me and her have is amazing. She told me that when she first saw me 3 years ago (we worked together) she was so nervous and did not want to come off as a total dork because she was so drawn to me.
We all talk so well and things are talked out if someone has a problem. We can talk about everything and are not worried about being turned away or embarrassed.
So why am I worried. I do not want to lose her. He does not want to lose her. Our friendship is worth so much to us. So we are taking things so very slow. Also to throw another dynamic into this we are all into bdsm so we are wanting to explore that. We get together (this ranges from once a week to 3 times and would be more but we are all busy with jobs) we all get together or me and her go out and it is the most natural love I have ever felt next to my husband.
So why am I so worried.
Long time since I have been active here.
Anyway, I am married. Have been together for 17 years. We have a mutual friend pip. Best friend actually. We do everything together. We have for well over a year now, actually going on two years. Pip is very involved in our life and we are in hers. Meaning we fix things in each others houses, holidays have been shared (we trick or treat at her house with my kids and my adult kids and their family)(we also shared valentines day all together this year). Pip knows our children very well and they love her (she snuggles with my daughter and trims her bangs) so our family is already very meshed with hers.
Fast forward to the past week. Things have happened (her and my husband danced) very intimately. So we are now talking what that means. She is straight but we have strong feels for each other. We do each others hair, lock arms when we walk and we are even now talking about sharing clothes. But they (pip and husband) would like to get physical.
So here is where I am at. They are both mono. He has no interest in dating her alone, she has no interest in dating him alone.
The synergy that me and her have is amazing. She told me that when she first saw me 3 years ago (we worked together) she was so nervous and did not want to come off as a total dork because she was so drawn to me.
We all talk so well and things are talked out if someone has a problem. We can talk about everything and are not worried about being turned away or embarrassed.
So why am I worried. I do not want to lose her. He does not want to lose her. Our friendship is worth so much to us. So we are taking things so very slow. Also to throw another dynamic into this we are all into bdsm so we are wanting to explore that. We get together (this ranges from once a week to 3 times and would be more but we are all busy with jobs) we all get together or me and her go out and it is the most natural love I have ever felt next to my husband.
So why am I so worried.
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