Greetings Dannie,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.
Good to meet you, I have somewhat in common with you as I am in an MFM configuration and am starting to get up there in years (48 as of late last year). I am curious about something: Does your father know about your poly dynamic? If so, how does he feel about it? I know that even if he knows and accepts, there's still going to be a lot of awkwardness due to the lack of privacy.
I can't imagine what you can do about the two-bedrooms-for-three-people problem. I assume you're not in a position to buy a bigger house. As macabre as it is for me to say, you may simply have to tough it out until your father passes away. He is getting up there, like you said.
Does your father need a lot of care? How's his health? If he's ailing badly and needs round-the-clock caregiving, that's an enormous weight exerted on all three of you (you and your two guys). These things can make relationships difficult all around. I kind of know that by experience.
It sounds like you are making the best of things, and getting involved on Polyamory.com is a great way to learn new information and get feedback from a wide range of experienced polyamorists. I'll be following this thread so you can always ping me here.
Glad you could join us; hope you'll enjoy your stay.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"
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