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Old 04-14-2015, 09:45 PM
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The kids are the priority. Nothing wrong with that.
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Old 04-15-2015, 04:48 AM
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My current 3-year boyfriend, Mr. C, is an old high-school friend and we have a gaming/social group comprised of decade-long friends we meet with, frequently. This helps because we can be rather open with them and know they accept us. Our spouses also feel comfortable coming to the gatherings with us.

I met two other partners through OKC, but I'm not as close with them as I am with Mr. C, and neither I nor them have felt ready to share as much of ourselves as I can with DH or Mr C.

DH met one partner through work, and the relationship kind of fizzled out when he switched jobs. He met two new partners through OKC, and those kind of crashed and burned due to trust and compatibility issues. His current interest, S, is a mutual friend that we've had over a decade long friendship with, and although it's new, I have a feeling this relationship with them will last a long time.

Neither of us have really gone out to meet people as we're both really invested in our current partners and our son together, though. I can't figure out how that would work for us, really.

So I guess, for me and DH, we find it easier to form deep poly relationships with people we've already had long trusting friendships with. Dating sites like OKC are interesting, but a bit too scary for us.
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Old 04-19-2015, 10:07 PM
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Dude met Lotus on OKC. He went on a few OKC dates before that - didn't work out but that is the game of numbers, not a problem with OKC. I've had a couple of interesting OKC conversations - one of which led me to go the PGH Meet-Up, which was fun but not something I'm interesting in doing on a regular basis.

I prefer to meet people randomly IRL. But since I don't really socialize THAT is limited (of course, I am not really "looking" but just open to possibilities).
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Old 07-14-2015, 08:04 PM
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Default How to meet like-minded poly people?

Hello,

how do I meet other poly people in my area?
Does anyone know of legitimate meetup groups and/or dating sites that are not primarily about sex?

I live in a small town, not much diversity.
I'm open to using dating sites (never used one before) but I'd much rather meet people in person.

I am a bi female with a straight bf; we've been dating for 5yrs and he's completely open/on board

I am new to this site and hope I am posting this in the right place.
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Old 07-14-2015, 09:07 PM
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There are poly groups on meetup.com. If you are in a rural area, the closest one might be rather far away. OKC is poly friendly but you may again have limited selection in a smaller town. Some subcultures are very poly friendly - I can think of gamers and pagans offhand. There may be more. And if you are willing to be out about being poly, you can just meet people in the world the usual way and tell them you are poly and see how it goes.
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Old 07-15-2015, 11:29 PM
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Hi anonymousgirl,

Here are a couple of resources for finding poly groups in your area:
It can also help to google "polyamory" with the name of your state or nearest major city.

Does that help?
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Old 07-18-2015, 02:35 PM
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The Search function is your friend. Do a Tag Search here for the term "meeting people" and you will find many threads on this topic here already. Check them out for good advice and resources.
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Old 07-18-2015, 04:43 PM
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I recommend OKCupid which has a poly search option. I'm not sure about straight dating apps lol, but maybe Tinder or other apps have the option to search for other partnered or open folks?
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Old 08-23-2015, 10:26 PM
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Thank you for all the links and info!
I hope you all have a great week!

I'm gonna try OkCupid, it seems to be very popular.
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Old 08-23-2015, 10:31 PM
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Sounds like a good idea.
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