So in short: We have had the most amazing relationship. We have been madly in love for almost 20 years and always regarding each other as the love of our lives, our respective soul mates. Most of our friends have defined our relationship as the one to be inspired by and nothing has ever come between us. We are the best of friends, we have amaaazing sex (still) and we are even married since one year.
But 6 months ago another man entered our lives and my wife fell in love with him. He looks better than me, he is better at sex, he lives a more interesting life and he has a lot larger penis than I have (it's important since she is fascinated by large penises) and everything about him are amazing.
She fell in love with him immediately when they met, started dating 2 days later and they had sex within 6 days from the first time they met. We also occasionally have threesomes where I can witness by myself that she enjoys the sex with him about 10 times more than with me despite us both believing up until now that we've had amazing sex. I've never seen her enjoy sex more before. She has transformed from this sexually amazing woman to a professional who uses all three holes with him which she rarely did with me up until he showed up. She has orgasms I've never even dreamt of was possible.
I have gotten to know him well during this half a year and he is a very good guy and I consider him a good friend now too.
She has told me she now have realized she is poly (never realized it before) and she wants us both and wants us to move together all three and live at the same place. She can't live without neither of us, she has told me.
I am mono myself. She is the love of my life. The one my whole universe rotates around. I can't see myself ever falling in love with someone else but her. She is a one in a million and has the heart the size of a planet (and a body that is equal as good)
Last week we went to a honey moon vacation and she texted him telling him she wished he was there too and the very day we came home she wanted to go to him.
Tonight he proposed to her, saying she is the best thing that has ever happened to him in his life. She told him she would have said yes if she hadn't already been married.
So tell me, how the hell should I cope with all this. Do we even have a future?
I have HUGE problems coping with the fact that the guy is like a better version of myself and when I compare our features I can see him better at everything I have ever put pride in within myself.
But still she want's to have me in her life.
I don't understand. Please help me do.
Do we have a future or is he simply her next boyfriend and she is too afraid of hurting me to say bye bye already?
Please explain how a poly's mind works.
(At the moment she at his house having sex for the second time in 7 hours and I'm abandoned at home all alone)
But 6 months ago another man entered our lives and my wife fell in love with him. He looks better than me, he is better at sex, he lives a more interesting life and he has a lot larger penis than I have (it's important since she is fascinated by large penises) and everything about him are amazing.
She fell in love with him immediately when they met, started dating 2 days later and they had sex within 6 days from the first time they met. We also occasionally have threesomes where I can witness by myself that she enjoys the sex with him about 10 times more than with me despite us both believing up until now that we've had amazing sex. I've never seen her enjoy sex more before. She has transformed from this sexually amazing woman to a professional who uses all three holes with him which she rarely did with me up until he showed up. She has orgasms I've never even dreamt of was possible.
I have gotten to know him well during this half a year and he is a very good guy and I consider him a good friend now too.
She has told me she now have realized she is poly (never realized it before) and she wants us both and wants us to move together all three and live at the same place. She can't live without neither of us, she has told me.
I am mono myself. She is the love of my life. The one my whole universe rotates around. I can't see myself ever falling in love with someone else but her. She is a one in a million and has the heart the size of a planet (and a body that is equal as good)
Last week we went to a honey moon vacation and she texted him telling him she wished he was there too and the very day we came home she wanted to go to him.
Tonight he proposed to her, saying she is the best thing that has ever happened to him in his life. She told him she would have said yes if she hadn't already been married.
So tell me, how the hell should I cope with all this. Do we even have a future?
I have HUGE problems coping with the fact that the guy is like a better version of myself and when I compare our features I can see him better at everything I have ever put pride in within myself.
But still she want's to have me in her life.
I don't understand. Please help me do.
Do we have a future or is he simply her next boyfriend and she is too afraid of hurting me to say bye bye already?
Please explain how a poly's mind works.
(At the moment she at his house having sex for the second time in 7 hours and I'm abandoned at home all alone)