Your most recent OKC messages. post em here!

2 messages from the same guy:

"i understand now its the sex ilike that me too "

"ar eu here to meet some one for a intamate pleasure time. "

banghead
 
Oy! Don't bang your head, he's not worth the bruise you'll get! :p

In a radical shift for OKCupid, I got a GREAT message this morning! Thoughtful, charming, and respectful, and he obviously read my profile. BUT... and there is a but... he told me quite honestly that he is full up on partners and not looking for anymore. He just wrote to acknowledge me "from across the crowded room," as he put it. Damn! Didn't have time to read his profile (will do that tonight), and he lives far away, but I wrote back and thanked him, and asked if we could continue conversing. I rarely find rational, good-looking, and eloquent poly people on OKC in my area, so I'd love to strike up a friendship, even if only online. Maybe he'll be okay with that.

Oh well, back to the salt mines...
 
Too bad he's too far away and too busy. Definite no-no's. But maybe he has a friend...

I also have better OKC news. I need to update my blog. A likely prospect has asked me out for coffee in Boston...
 
"I love Star Wars, in fact you look strong enough to pull the ears off a gundar.

Yeah, I got that today. Seriously.
 
My messages are just not entertaining enough to post (usually the 'let's have a threesome!' variety) but I got one lately. Edited a bit. My profile makes it very clear I am polyamorous and kinky.

"ok this is a diversion for me. normally i don't want to share at all. Yet, since i'm just getting back into the relationship scene i don't want to go from 0- 60 and jump right into be committed so quickly.

i'm getting older and deserve to have some meaningful fun on my way to being on lockdown by choice with that soulmate person.
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please tell me you practice safe sex. i don't want to die just yet i have one more life to live still. thx. sweetie & peace"

I think the parting sentence is just astounding.
 
Ha, Opal - I got a 3some message today, a guy saying he was interested in experimenting with that. When I declined, he said he liked the look of me, so he would settle for a 1-on-1.

So nice of him to offer.
 
"ok this is a diversion for me. normally i don't want to share at all. Yet, since i'm just getting back into the relationship scene i don't want to go from 0- 60 and jump right into be committed so quickly.

i'm getting older and deserve to have some meaningful fun on my way to being on lockdown by choice with that soulmate person.
...
please tell me you practice safe sex. i don't want to die just yet i have one more life to live still. thx. sweetie & peace"

I think the parting sentence is just astounding.

I think the ASSumptions and ASSertions he makes throughout are astounding. I'd almost play along for a while just to see what a dick he is! You know, for a diversion.
 
ASS-tounding

Yeah, I was just stunned when I read that. I know people think incredibly stupid things like this but I was amazed someone actually wrote it out.

I did think about messaging him and seriously asking why he thought that wording was a good idea. But I just don't have time to even try and educate fools.

For shits and giggles, here's the follow up. I accidentally clicked on his profile when copying the original message so he saw that and messaged me again:

'I see u peeking again mi amor. would you like to do more then peek, maybe speak what is on ur mind/heart.

I am a free bird for now, but don't have a clue as to how long that will last. so if u want to get to know me, this is our chance. don't wait until i'm already committed to someone because i don't fool around on my mate.

i hope u had a nice weekend. will you send more pic's, the one is cool, but it's getting old now, even if u still look juicy in it. :)'

I really don't get why I should be jumping up and getting right on that - so he will be monogamous again? Why should that be of interest to me? And I for damn sure don't owe anybody any further pictures. So he thinks I'm diseased, probably fine with cheating, and have old pics to boot? *sigh*

I was chatting with a friend who identifies as very straight. She has no issues with same sex attraction/relationships - it just doesn't turn her crank. Anyway, even as a straight women - who also identifies as poly/open/kinky, she gets bombarded with threesome requests too. I thought it was just bi women who got that in droves but apparently not!

I'm not a hater of porn - it has its place - but the emphasis on MFF threesomes hasn't done anyone any favors. I've actually tried to set up MMF threesomes - it's been a non-starter so far.

Hmm, I think I will proposition random men for MMFs now... :D
 
I deactivated my OK Cupid profile permanently. It wasn't that I was poly saturated, though that was true at the time I was considering it, but to be honest. I love Runic Wolf and Wendigo. I really enjoy this thing that is emerging between Runic Wolf's girlfriend and myself - not really willing to put a label on it yet. Wendigo and I are talking a couple times a week... processing the transition back to best friends. We will always love each other and I will always be his, but we're both struggling to accept that the resentment that built up between them the last couple of years is insurmountable. And if I can't have the one person I love more than anyone but Runic Wolf, why would I want to date ever again?

I've not really experienced the jerks of OK Cupid, most of the guys that message me about strange things are on Fetlife, but either way, I'm not available and don't need to be hit on by strangers to cheer me up. The last message I got on OK Cupid was "I see you're married, did you meet your husband on OK Cupid or some other online dating site."
 
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I just deactivated mine again. I had only turned it back on to view PunkRock's brother's account - he wanted my opinion. The week it was on was enough for me! I thought about deleting it completely, but as I have a few other friends who sometimes want advice, I decided to just make it go dormant again.
 
I joined OKC after seeing people talking about it here... So far, I've had interesting/entertaining conversations with a couple of men, but also had a few clunkers.

One guy sent me a message in which he talked about getting together for drinks, wine over dinner, and watching our local sports teams. Despite my saying (at least in my answers, not sure whether it's in my profile but it will be now if it isn't already) that I'm severely allergic to all alcohol, and I have no interest in sports. He also talked about "clothes hanging from the ceiling fan" despite my saying I'm not looking for casual sex. His profile says he's looking for single women; mine clearly says I'm both married and in a long-term relationship. And when I pointed this out to him and expressed my lack of interest, he replied with, "No, no i think youll find I'm open." I deleted that; clearly the guy doesn't take "not interested" for an answer, so maybe no answer will get through his skull.

And this morning, from another guy, I got "Hello, would you might be interested in taking to me?"
 
Hyperskeptic, lol. I decided to just not answer... the "would you might" part made my inner grammarian twitchy.
 
"Hey babe, I can tie my shoes and type one word at the same time. In fact, I'm *tying* them right now! Go ahead and pinch yourself, you're not dreaming."
 
T = Telling
Y = You
I = I'm
N = Not
G = Gay.

How's that?

To "tie one on" (or be "tying one on") is to drink too much (so as to make yourself drunk).

In Urban Dictionary, tying means "taking excessively long to complete simple tasks."
 
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