We are in a good relationship for six years plus. I am 47, male, professional and goofy, in my third marriage, having grown up some along the way, sober x 6 years with 2 kids from a previous marriage and a wife who is 30, professional, very sharp, unselfish and married for the first time, with a son (who was conceived days before we got together), sober x 11 years and - the love of my life. Really now.
We are well matched for most everything but we realized that neither one of us is able to fulfill all needs. She would like a woman for casual sex, although I suspect a loving relationship is not out of the question. I am redefining my sexuality as a result of this challenge to our previously agreed on monogamous relationship.
I had thought some time ago that poly was the way to go for the world, being authentic, honest and loving. I placed myself in societal molds and did what I thought I should to please others, to be a good boy. Big mistake. Clearly the world is not ready for poly. And I don't even know yet about myself either - what I do know is that I am opening back up and would like to learn more, experience and grow more, work on myself and be authentic. We both feel this way about life and living. We both have been in therapy, counseling for couples and in general have a fairly good grasp on the complexities of life. Our relationship is not for sissies, nor is poly. Communication could be clearer and more frequent, but hey, we are imperfect, and working on it!
Thanks to y'all (yes, we live in Virginia), there is a place to explore all of this safely, cautiously and gratitude goes to all shares of these deep, vulnerable places that we have within.
We are well matched for most everything but we realized that neither one of us is able to fulfill all needs. She would like a woman for casual sex, although I suspect a loving relationship is not out of the question. I am redefining my sexuality as a result of this challenge to our previously agreed on monogamous relationship.
I had thought some time ago that poly was the way to go for the world, being authentic, honest and loving. I placed myself in societal molds and did what I thought I should to please others, to be a good boy. Big mistake. Clearly the world is not ready for poly. And I don't even know yet about myself either - what I do know is that I am opening back up and would like to learn more, experience and grow more, work on myself and be authentic. We both feel this way about life and living. We both have been in therapy, counseling for couples and in general have a fairly good grasp on the complexities of life. Our relationship is not for sissies, nor is poly. Communication could be clearer and more frequent, but hey, we are imperfect, and working on it!
Thanks to y'all (yes, we live in Virginia), there is a place to explore all of this safely, cautiously and gratitude goes to all shares of these deep, vulnerable places that we have within.