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Old 06-18-2018, 11:01 PM
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Thanks for that update, it sounds like things have improved, that's great to hear. I hope the three of you have a good time on your date.
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Old 06-20-2018, 03:10 AM
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Upon reflection, there's a few thoughts that stand out.
  • How long have these two been your "best friends"? (As in actual friends not acquaintances or online buddies, & as in actual friends not a couple trying to get you into bed.) It's not at all clear.
  • How many children do they have? How many children do you have?
  • Great sex is great sex, period. A loving relationship is a loving relationship, period. There's no reason to believe that one somehow leads to another. And both have a way of fading when the initial novelty begins to wear thin, especially if there's little substance to back it up. Some people cannot accept simply having sex & need to rationalize into "something serious," even if the people involved aren't well suited.
  • It's one thing to be around someone who's occasionally hot-headed or fired up about something. It's quite another to tolerate someone who keeps wallowing in meanness -- as the saying goes, when someone tells you "this is how I am," you should believe them.
  • When there's an appeaser involved, then that's already TWO people whose games need to be changed in order to have any hope of making the situation better. (I speak as a former appeaser.)
  • When there's someone who expects to always get their own way, there's usually two roles available: commander & appeaser. There's only one chair for commander; if that's not open, then you can choose to be the other, or to not remain -- that is the choice that THEY have given you.
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