Is polyamory by choice or not?

[GalaGirl]

Not a prob, Ravenscroft. I didn't take it like "bringing me up short." I was thinking you were trying to ask OP to consider what all their toggles are. Like if they had other important areas to think about. Maybe they also have a "kink" toggle. Or a "do I want kids?" toggle and so on.

I'm still going to stress not getting hung up on "perfect words," JapinaTricycle. Make do with whatever words are close enough.

Esp if seeking the "perfect words" is going to get in the way of you actually sorting yourself out, knowing your own self well, knowing what it you want/seek in relationships.

Galagirl