Metriste
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Hi everyone, I'm a married bi male brand new to poly and looking for advice and support as I adjust to a relationship style I've never experienced before. So far I'm just looking to make sure I take it slow and careful. Here are the pertinent details.
Me: 25, male, Kinsey 3, married (monogamously until very recently) for 4 years and very happy. Never gave any thought to poly until a strong friendship started to turn into something more.
My wife: 23, female, Kinsey 1, also happy in our marriage but willing to cautiously explore a triad or quad.
My potential SO: 19, male, Kinsey 3. We've been friends for 18 months and discussing the possibility of a relationship for about 6.
My potential SO's fiancee: 19, female, Kinsey 0/1. I don't really know her at all yet due to logistical factors, but she's aware of the situation; official negotiations (for lack of a better word) haven't begun yet.
My situation is a bit unique because my wife and potential SO are both active military and only come home a few times a year, and my potential SO's fiancee is in college 2 cities away. There is a communication network, but it's almost entirely phone calls and text messages. Currently we're in the very early stages of figuring out what's going on here, what we all want and how those factors may or may not work together.
Any and all advice and tips for people new to poly are always greatly appreciated, thanks for reading!
Me: 25, male, Kinsey 3, married (monogamously until very recently) for 4 years and very happy. Never gave any thought to poly until a strong friendship started to turn into something more.
My wife: 23, female, Kinsey 1, also happy in our marriage but willing to cautiously explore a triad or quad.
My potential SO: 19, male, Kinsey 3. We've been friends for 18 months and discussing the possibility of a relationship for about 6.
My potential SO's fiancee: 19, female, Kinsey 0/1. I don't really know her at all yet due to logistical factors, but she's aware of the situation; official negotiations (for lack of a better word) haven't begun yet.
My situation is a bit unique because my wife and potential SO are both active military and only come home a few times a year, and my potential SO's fiancee is in college 2 cities away. There is a communication network, but it's almost entirely phone calls and text messages. Currently we're in the very early stages of figuring out what's going on here, what we all want and how those factors may or may not work together.
Any and all advice and tips for people new to poly are always greatly appreciated, thanks for reading!
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