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Old 04-19-2020, 04:09 PM
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Good article.

https://www.inc.com/kat-boogaard/6-k...h-someone.html
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Old 04-19-2020, 10:04 PM
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I really like this article; I want to recap the six tips they outlined (tips to disagree respectfully):
  • Focus on facts.
  • Don't get personal.
  • Recognize the good.
  • Remember to listen.
  • Use "I" statements.
  • Know when to move on.
If we keep the above points in mind, we're much more likely to have a productive discussion, rather than just an argument.

Perhaps my favorite point is, "Remember to listen." Take the time to really hear what the other person is saying, rather than saving up your ideas of how you will defeat them in the debate.
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Old 04-19-2020, 10:06 PM
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Hopefully we can all remember it when we get wound up 😱
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Old 04-19-2020, 10:55 PM
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Amen.
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