FlameKat
New member
If I may, jump in quickly again.... (Smilies people...)
Sohuman, it seems to me that at this point you are looking for support, as well as direction (in the giving of advice - your choice of course to take it)...
The section called Life stories and blogs may have been more appropriate for you to share your story and open up - that section is a 'protected area'... This section, and the general discussions section tend to be a little more blunt and direct...
Please do continue to read here, if you are not comfortable sharing more of your story, please get involved in the discussions on other threads, being careful not to take personal offense at comments (I found it hard in my initial stages on here not to feel personally attacked... with one memorable thread ending up transferring into the forum sociology thread )
and just for the record... NyCindie is a good person - sometimes a little more direct than is easily appreciated... there are a few others on here like that...
myself I find their bluntness (now) to be refreshing and helpful and, in particular, if something they have said set me off... I need to ask why... (yes it may have been rudely said or whatever - but why did it REALLY upset me) - to a large degree I have found that their response has triggered something I was feeling deep down that I need to work on, or clarified something I didn't want to admit (and on occasion has simply come out of left field and left me stunned going "what the...") however, this is just me...
I do hope you will stay and take advantage of what really is an amazing community of people...
Sohuman, it seems to me that at this point you are looking for support, as well as direction (in the giving of advice - your choice of course to take it)...
The section called Life stories and blogs may have been more appropriate for you to share your story and open up - that section is a 'protected area'... This section, and the general discussions section tend to be a little more blunt and direct...
Please do continue to read here, if you are not comfortable sharing more of your story, please get involved in the discussions on other threads, being careful not to take personal offense at comments (I found it hard in my initial stages on here not to feel personally attacked... with one memorable thread ending up transferring into the forum sociology thread )
and just for the record... NyCindie is a good person - sometimes a little more direct than is easily appreciated... there are a few others on here like that...
myself I find their bluntness (now) to be refreshing and helpful and, in particular, if something they have said set me off... I need to ask why... (yes it may have been rudely said or whatever - but why did it REALLY upset me) - to a large degree I have found that their response has triggered something I was feeling deep down that I need to work on, or clarified something I didn't want to admit (and on occasion has simply come out of left field and left me stunned going "what the...") however, this is just me...
I do hope you will stay and take advantage of what really is an amazing community of people...