CG,
I have thought that if you hung out with a different crowd, you might be happier.
Maybe that is true, maybe not. I know you care greatly for these folks but they don't seem to add anything to your life. Of course, we only hear about the bad times and not the joys.
Unfortunately I have to include Wordsmith in the group to get away from. I am unimpressed by someone who can't respect boundaries, is emotionally distant, and appears profoundly self-involved. And yes, I know, we don't see the good times here. But I cannot figure out what you do see in him. What do you get out of that relationship? I remain deeply puzzled by this.
But, to my fellow posters, can we move away from the gender essentialism? Wordsmith is under no obligation to support anyone because he has a penis. Yes, I also hope he would be more supportive, take a part time job or something so they can move out. But that's not the 'man' job anymore than cooking and cleaning is the 'woman' job. If that scenario works for Wordsmith and CG, that that is all good as long as it is freely chosen by both.
Partners should do what they can to support and care for their partners. Wordsmith has major failings in this regard, from what I read here. But he is not failing 'as a man' - he's failing as a person in a committed, loving relationship.