Atrueunicorn
New member
Hi,
I read the first few responses to my only query here and I was so embarrassed about confusing polyamory with open relationship I didn't check back but now I did and I realize that I got so many wonderful, wise answers. Thank you, guys! So for the record, my situation perhaps would qualify as polyamorous because I was in love with two people and in an open relationship where both men knew about each other. Sex was a big part of it (which is why some people suggested I was a swinger) but emotions were an even bigger part -- I definitely felt very emotionally invested in the new person. And I talked about it eventually with my primary partner and it was more-less cool (we are still new at this).
I just broke up with the new person because of the back-and-forth, hot-and-cold thing and so now I'm going through a really, genuine, awful, awful post-break up period where nothing feels good and I'm a hysterical mess. To the outside world I'm a woman who has her shit together. But I'm hurting so badly and even though the new relationship only lasted for a short time (and most of it was spent trying to figure out why he was distancing himself), I'm just broken. Anyway. I would love some advice on how you got over breakups... I don't feel like doing anything and this is not good for my primary relationship either. I just want to get over this. Yet, I check my email like an idiot because that's the only point of contact I have with the other person as I deleted his number, facebook, etc. Ugh. I also feel so embarrassed for having such strong reaction to this... I know I shouldn't but I do. Any tips on getting over this?
I read the first few responses to my only query here and I was so embarrassed about confusing polyamory with open relationship I didn't check back but now I did and I realize that I got so many wonderful, wise answers. Thank you, guys! So for the record, my situation perhaps would qualify as polyamorous because I was in love with two people and in an open relationship where both men knew about each other. Sex was a big part of it (which is why some people suggested I was a swinger) but emotions were an even bigger part -- I definitely felt very emotionally invested in the new person. And I talked about it eventually with my primary partner and it was more-less cool (we are still new at this).
I just broke up with the new person because of the back-and-forth, hot-and-cold thing and so now I'm going through a really, genuine, awful, awful post-break up period where nothing feels good and I'm a hysterical mess. To the outside world I'm a woman who has her shit together. But I'm hurting so badly and even though the new relationship only lasted for a short time (and most of it was spent trying to figure out why he was distancing himself), I'm just broken. Anyway. I would love some advice on how you got over breakups... I don't feel like doing anything and this is not good for my primary relationship either. I just want to get over this. Yet, I check my email like an idiot because that's the only point of contact I have with the other person as I deleted his number, facebook, etc. Ugh. I also feel so embarrassed for having such strong reaction to this... I know I shouldn't but I do. Any tips on getting over this?