Happygirl1968
New member
Hi,
I am new here. My husband and I had been swingers on and off for about 9 years. 3 years ago My husband and I met a man (who I had befriended on a website). We had a 3some and after that I was allowed to see this man on my own. Over time we fell in love. My husband was aware of the growing feelings from the beginning and kept saying he was ok with it. He said he felt secure with me and he was not threatened. It did not affect my husband and my relationship and I still love him very much as well. My husband was okay with my boyfriend taking me to medical proceedures and spending my birthday and Valentines day with me while he was out of town. He would let him come over On Christmas Eve, New Years Eve, out to dinner with us etc
about 6 months ago we had a family issue with out daughter. This really stressed my husband out and he became very cranky and moody. He has since come out of that BUT while he was in this bad place he told me he wanted me to stop seeing my boyfriend. This crushed me. I was always honest and open, never broke rules and it had been almost 3 years of me seeing him. I didn't understand. He said he felt insecure and jealous. I know he was going through a rough time.
I am now trying to deal with not being able to see my boyfriend who I also love. In a way I am resenting my husband for letting it go on for almost 3 years and telling me and even encourabging me.
He said I can still remain friends with him, so we text and chat. But I am so sad. I want to continue to see him. I don't know what to do. Any advice?
I am new here. My husband and I had been swingers on and off for about 9 years. 3 years ago My husband and I met a man (who I had befriended on a website). We had a 3some and after that I was allowed to see this man on my own. Over time we fell in love. My husband was aware of the growing feelings from the beginning and kept saying he was ok with it. He said he felt secure with me and he was not threatened. It did not affect my husband and my relationship and I still love him very much as well. My husband was okay with my boyfriend taking me to medical proceedures and spending my birthday and Valentines day with me while he was out of town. He would let him come over On Christmas Eve, New Years Eve, out to dinner with us etc
about 6 months ago we had a family issue with out daughter. This really stressed my husband out and he became very cranky and moody. He has since come out of that BUT while he was in this bad place he told me he wanted me to stop seeing my boyfriend. This crushed me. I was always honest and open, never broke rules and it had been almost 3 years of me seeing him. I didn't understand. He said he felt insecure and jealous. I know he was going through a rough time.
I am now trying to deal with not being able to see my boyfriend who I also love. In a way I am resenting my husband for letting it go on for almost 3 years and telling me and even encourabging me.
He said I can still remain friends with him, so we text and chat. But I am so sad. I want to continue to see him. I don't know what to do. Any advice?