I like how so many Non-monogamist sorts self-report it's not about "jealousy" as much as "scheduling", and so too, finding anybody else locally!" So true, Hah! LDR's suck unless you got "Lesbian Uhaul Effect" and that's too much-a-much, as an old friend on this list used to call it. And even in Mono... It's hard to plan things around schedules (My wife is a Nocturnal-shift RN)/// We can hardly plan around other's worlds.