So here I am living with this amazing woman who treats me so good I have to pinch myself every now and then just to believe she is real. She is also very sexy to look at. We have so much in common except one thing. She is totally poly and I am undecided still on it. I have tried to find others for us to date together but it seams that everyone I come across weather couple or single or what ever they claim to be that they are just looking for the "sexy girl" and really swingers not poly at all.
I have gone out on dates with others but find myself just wanting to be with her. My heart wants to be with her over anyone else so I have decided it is not fair to anyone for me to date them alone because my heart is not into it. She encourages me to keep looking saying "if you find someone you love as you do me you will be just as happy being with them as you are with me." Truth is I have searched my entire life for someone like her and she gives me everything I need except when she goes out with others. I have been fighting the green one eyed monster as well.
I would never expect her to change who she is. I love and respect her. The real question is "Who am I?" and "What makes me happy?" and "Is true poly relationships with couples out there?" and "If they are, will that be what we want as a couple?"
I am open but discouraged by the swingers posing as poly. We as a couple want love and honesty to be first above all else. Looking for suggestions of where we can look and increasing our chances of finding a true poly couple who would love both of us, not just her.
I have gone out on dates with others but find myself just wanting to be with her. My heart wants to be with her over anyone else so I have decided it is not fair to anyone for me to date them alone because my heart is not into it. She encourages me to keep looking saying "if you find someone you love as you do me you will be just as happy being with them as you are with me." Truth is I have searched my entire life for someone like her and she gives me everything I need except when she goes out with others. I have been fighting the green one eyed monster as well.
I would never expect her to change who she is. I love and respect her. The real question is "Who am I?" and "What makes me happy?" and "Is true poly relationships with couples out there?" and "If they are, will that be what we want as a couple?"
I am open but discouraged by the swingers posing as poly. We as a couple want love and honesty to be first above all else. Looking for suggestions of where we can look and increasing our chances of finding a true poly couple who would love both of us, not just her.