... so I have been trying to wrap myself around this whole poly thing for a couple of months, and for the most part I have been doing well.
Outside of the "spontaneous" threesome episode with my guy's OSO (and the subsequent lessons learned), things have been going...OK
I wanted to get some perspective on two recent occurences...
First, the post threesome "episode". Even though we were protected, all three of us ended up having reactions (simple irritation--no STD's or anything), but I thought it was interesting that the OSO made a significant effort to try to blame me for it. She has also been dropping subtle hints about other instances in her life that lead me to believe that she is simply tolerating the lifestyle versus accepting it (i.e. telling our guy about other people in her life who are willing to setlle down with her... why would she even bring that up?)
Yet I digress...
The second incidence involves our guy mentioning that he functions better in mono/poly relationships (no shit!!!). When I challenged the fairness of that, he stated that he understood that he couldn't very well ask for the ladies to understand his poly ways and not give them the freedom to entertain others, but where he prioritized a woman that was involved in another relationship would significantly change...
Huh? That doesn't sound very poly to me!!! Is this a common double standard or does my guy just want to have multiples of his own with the benefit of being the one and only for the ladies?
Outside of the "spontaneous" threesome episode with my guy's OSO (and the subsequent lessons learned), things have been going...OK
I wanted to get some perspective on two recent occurences...
First, the post threesome "episode". Even though we were protected, all three of us ended up having reactions (simple irritation--no STD's or anything), but I thought it was interesting that the OSO made a significant effort to try to blame me for it. She has also been dropping subtle hints about other instances in her life that lead me to believe that she is simply tolerating the lifestyle versus accepting it (i.e. telling our guy about other people in her life who are willing to setlle down with her... why would she even bring that up?)
Yet I digress...
The second incidence involves our guy mentioning that he functions better in mono/poly relationships (no shit!!!). When I challenged the fairness of that, he stated that he understood that he couldn't very well ask for the ladies to understand his poly ways and not give them the freedom to entertain others, but where he prioritized a woman that was involved in another relationship would significantly change...
Huh? That doesn't sound very poly to me!!! Is this a common double standard or does my guy just want to have multiples of his own with the benefit of being the one and only for the ladies?