beguilingheart
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My husband and I have been together for over 4 years, we married about 1 1/2 years ago. When we first started seeing each other, I asked how he would feel about having an open relationship. He felt that it would be something he could be interested in. I explained that I had fallen in love with him and that I have had issues with being monogamous in most of my relationships, and I did not want to cheat on him or have secrets. He agreed.
We continued to be monogamous until this last winter. He met someone and they fell in love. They have met and it was decided that she would move in with us.
Next week my husband and I will be moving away from all of our family and friends, and his girlfriend will be moving in with us either in January or in May.
I am not really sure how to deal with any of this. She is 10 years younger than me. She has no career goals, nor does she have any real ambition to do much of anything. The majority of the conversations we have had together are her asking me why my husband is not texting her. I find her dull, immature and not all that intelligent. I honestly don't see my husband staying with her for a long time. I don't want to leave my husband and I would prefer to just be neutral until this plays itself out. I do not want to manipulate either of them.
I don't have anyone I can talk about this with. I have a boyfriend and I do not like to discuss my relationship issues with him.
I have tried to bring up real concerns, like what do we tell our families, especially when/if they visit. I was told to let it all go and to not worry about potential issues down the line.
So I guess I am just a little lost and could use a friend or someone to just talk to. If anyone has any advice or has been through this or is lonely and needs a friend.. I guess drop me a line.
Thanks.
We continued to be monogamous until this last winter. He met someone and they fell in love. They have met and it was decided that she would move in with us.
Next week my husband and I will be moving away from all of our family and friends, and his girlfriend will be moving in with us either in January or in May.
I am not really sure how to deal with any of this. She is 10 years younger than me. She has no career goals, nor does she have any real ambition to do much of anything. The majority of the conversations we have had together are her asking me why my husband is not texting her. I find her dull, immature and not all that intelligent. I honestly don't see my husband staying with her for a long time. I don't want to leave my husband and I would prefer to just be neutral until this plays itself out. I do not want to manipulate either of them.
I don't have anyone I can talk about this with. I have a boyfriend and I do not like to discuss my relationship issues with him.
I have tried to bring up real concerns, like what do we tell our families, especially when/if they visit. I was told to let it all go and to not worry about potential issues down the line.
So I guess I am just a little lost and could use a friend or someone to just talk to. If anyone has any advice or has been through this or is lonely and needs a friend.. I guess drop me a line.
Thanks.