That makes it simple. Tell G, "I am unable to talk to H at this time because she leaves the room when I come in. I suggest you get her to talk to me."
I beg your pardon, K, but I have to disagree. Purpleboots giving her time away willy nilly is not a good thing with these people.
G gets H to show up willing to talk?
So flippin' what?
Doesn't mean
purpleboots is willing to talk at that time or has to be up for it just because THEY are. And about what? Martians? Crayons?
It's just a lot easier for purpleboots to state her own position and give clear communication about where SHE stands at this time.
"I suggest you get her to talk to me about _____ at these acceptable times_______.
That I am willing to entertain. No more, no less."
Something to that effect anyway -- very specific. Lather, rinse, repeat. "Specific" is way better to me than leaving it "open to interpretation."
Because they can't be waking her up in the middle of the night to talk because they feel like it. They can't be getting comfort cookies from her when there's issues left pending resolution. They can't seem to figure out "basic consideration" on their own -- she's got to spell it out down to the topic/time, I suppose. Because they sound like "give an inch, take a mile" types.
We teach others how we want to be treated. Gotta draw the limit somewhere. Purpleboots wants rest. She wants to make "dealing with this nutty" be by appointment only, office hours are Fridays from 3 - 5 PM? So be it. It's her time management and where/how she spends it is up to her.
She's got kids to tend, a house to run, and pregnant lady rest to have. They try to bring it up at times she's got scheduled for other stuff, tough! Wait til next Friday's nutty people office hours! She doesn't have to run the 24 hr nutty people chat room and diner.
Martians? Nope.
Crayons? Nope.
Unprotected sex and family planning in polyship? Yep.
3 AM? Nope.
Baby nursing time? Nope.
3-5 PM? I can fit you in. See ya at 3 PM sharp.
They want to call her "a tyrant" because she's got limits and boundaries -- that's nice. Put it on the list to talk to the tyrant about being a tyrant... on Friday business hours! Tada! Restore some order over there. Sheesh.
GG