I live with Hubby, but because of his work and sleep schedule, we usually only see each other as he's rushing out the door to get to work. Some days, not even that, if I have an appointment or something and have to leave before he gets up. During the summer especially, because he works second shift, it isn't uncommon for us to go 2-3 days without seeing each other when we're both awake. He doesn't interact with me much anyway; human interaction just isn't his thing. So even if we are both home and awake for more than a few minutes, we're probably only *interacting* for a minute or two at a time, a few times a day. There are no meals together, there's no watching TV or anything like that together, and we almost never go to bed or get up at the same time. The only time we really spend more than a couple-few minutes at a stretch together is if we're having sex.
I have one guaranteed date night a week with my boyfriend, and we see each other an additional night during the month because of an event he hosts that he likes to have me go to. All of those are usually overnights, though a couple of times this summer our date night was just a couple of hours and no overnight due to extenuating circumstances, and he was out of town for two date nights. Once in a while, I ask for--and usually get--an extra night, but that isn't a common or predictable thing. He and I also usually talk on the phone on weekday mornings when I'm not with him.
Although I'm currently involved with (by some definition of "involved") four other people, I only consider one of them, Noon, a partner To me, "partner" is reserved for someone with whom I have an emotionally entangled romantic relationship; Noon is the only one besides Hubby and my boyfriend who fits that description. The others are FWBs or play partners. Noon isn't able to get together with any predictability or regularity; it's usually "Hey, are you free for lunch today?" once or twice a month when he has a space in his schedule. We message each other a few times a week, though.
The other three guys are all new connections within the past month or so (well, technically one of them has been a connection for two years, but it's been off and on and has only been on again for about a month or two), so we haven't really settled into any kind of routine. But one of them, it seems like I'll only be seeing at weekend play parties once or twice a month, and the other two will probably be once a month each, maybe twice if we can coordinate schedules. Party Guy and I usually message a few times a week; I don't often hear from either of the others except when they're scheduling a date with me. The lack of time together and lack of interaction, and the fact that Party Guy can pretty much only see me at parties, are the main reasons I can't consider any of them actually partners.