Personal Summaries

[kvb]

Rockit49 Thank you so much! I'm sure I will need the advice and perspective!

[Voyager]

Hi,

I'm Naomi. I'm in my late forties, female, homoflexible-to-bi, married to a man, and not currently dating anybody else but our relationship has been open to other partners from the beginning and both of us have had almost exclusively poly relationships for most of our adult lives. This is actually the longest since I began dating that I've gone with only one partner, and it certainly wasn't intentional -- I've just been really busy!

Not really here to deal with a problem or anything... just feeling a little too isolated from the poly world, so I poked my nose in here. On the whole, aside from wishing I'd find another great person to date, things are going pretty well.

[miaj34]

Hi, I go by Mia or Mimi, whichever is more comfortable for you. I am a now 45 year old single mom to an 11 year old. I say old but new because I apparently joined this site way back in 2012. I was aware of poly and must have been researching it at the time and do not remember actually joining.

After years of attempting to be in monogamous relationships, and after a divorce to a crazy but cool ex husband, I have decided to be honest with myself and go for what I wanted. My ex hubby introduced me to the open marriage concept because while we loved each other and wanted to still be together, we both found that we still wanted to see other people. Even though I was in denial of the fact that I wanted to see others at the time, he frequently dated other women.

So, like I said, I can't say I am new to this, but I am still not familiar with all the lingo. All I know is that I am a bi female who just loves to be loved and love in return. I know that I'm always looking for that relationship that will just click. Even though I know people say that you have to work at it and there is no such thing as love at first sight, but there is a chemistry with people you get. Sometimes you meet people and you just know they are meant to be in your life.

Since I have sort of come out about my lifestyle (my family knows but never discusses it), I have actively searched for my ideal mmf relationship. Which is way harder than I thought because a lot of people seem to want to make it be just about the sex, but it is so much more. Its about honest and openly expressing your wants and needs with your partners and you all being there for each other and fulfilling those needs.

At any rate, I am single at the moment and just enjoying my life for now until I stumble upon those beings that can both offer and receive what I want and need while allowing me to do the same for them.

[HerbeMannABg]

Heard Dove has a boyfriend. Guess Ill have to work harder to win her over. Im sure this personal ad will make her swoon.

Um... this guy wasnt exactly what I has in mind when I said I was 64", athletic, and educated.

[Anewtriad]

Hi my name is Tony. I'm new to this site and this type of community. I am a bisexual man in a MMF triad. My wife and I have been married for 8 years and met the other man in our relationship 2 and a half years ago. He is actually in another country and we are working through immigration issues now. The only way we could figure out how to make it work was to legally divorce from my wife and then since I make the required amount of money to sponsor a spouse and she doesn't for me to marry him and bring him here. Unfortunately that hasn't been as easy of a process as we were hoping. We are still all in the closet about this except a couple of close friends. With him living so far away it's easy enough to keep a secret, but it's hard being so far away without knowing when we might all get to be together. And trips to Europe to see him are really racking up credit card bills quickly. Just looking for some advice or to know that we aren't the only ones. Who are kept apart from the other love of our lives.

It was an interesting way we all met. My wife and I were happy together. I have always been bisexual, but never really acted on it and was very pleased with my wife and our relationship. We met him while traveling and he was just a friend at first. The more we talked and emailed over the months the more emotionally and mentally we all connected, until one day my wife and him had phone sex. My wife was very distraught and brought the situation to my attention and instead of getting upset. I got turned on. Long story short we are all in love and wanting to be together.

Anyway just wanting to say hi and introduce myself and share a little of my experience.

[TheLimey]

I'm TheLimey, at this point in time 46, English, living in South Florida. White hetero male, with a regular 9-5 on an office. I also act, play music and perform comedy. Loves cooking, gaming, and would also identify as a Top in BDSM

The Wife is 37, South Florida born and raised. Half Hispanic white Pansexual female, a student. Also acts, plays music and performs comedy, and is also an avid gamer. We've been married for over 15 years. A bottom in BDSM

The Chica is 31, South Floridian Hispanic, Pansexual female. Interested in escape rooms, reading, baking and ID's as a Top in BDSM.

Currently exploring the edges of polyamory, in a nascent triad

[VolitileRollercoaster]

Hi everyone, VolitleRollercoaster,

If you've seen my intro thread things don't look like they should be working for me, but rest assured they are. I'm 26, new to the community and polyamory. I'm a hetero F, mono-ish, working a normal office job and attempting to become and actress.

I'm dating a 27 hetero M, poly. We also have a Dom/Sub aspect to our sexual activities. Both of us are gamers and avid Hulu/Netflix watchers with a penchant for Marvel movies.

Our relationship is closed currently while we work on ourselves.

[NinaBrujah]

Hello.
My name is Brandi, and I am from Indiana. I am in a long term relationship of 15 years with my primary.
We decided to open our relationship around 3 years ago, and after a lot of discussion, realized that just sleeping with other people was not realistic for us. So, we decided to explore polyamory.
My partner had at that time only ever been with me. This was really what inspired us to take this path to begin with. I had, and have no issues with him having other partners. When we began this journey, however, I really had no intentions of taking on new partners.
That being said, last year I was reunited with an old friend/lover that I hadn't seen in over 16 years. The first night we reunited, things got pretty intense. After that night though, we only talked on the phone, and through texts. He ended up back with a very recent ex of his, and I was pretty upset about it.
10 months later he showed up again, saying he couldn't be without me, and here we are.
My primary is amazing and is handling this roller coaster amazingly well for our first real experience with polyamory. I however am having a lot of insecurities bloom.
I'm really struggling with if this is a sustainable situation, and if I am being realistic with how i feel for my new partner vs. how he feels for me. He is extremely busy, works two jobs, and therefore can only spend time with me once every two weeks or so.
I know that these are emotions I will have to deal with, but I guess I'm just looking for advice on how anyone else handles insecurities. I am not having jealousy issues, just worried that maybe all of this is too much for my new partner, and that he will lose interest (even though he isn't doing anything to make me feel that way).
Thanks for reading and for any advice. So glad I found a place where I can freely talk about these issues.

[OnTheTrek]

Mid 40s male Texan currently living in Lima, Peru.

Stumbled into open relationships back in 2011, and to my astonishment it was the most honest, relaxed, accepting experience of love I've known. Finally being secure enough to honestly explore my heart and kinks, just about everything gets checked off when girlfriends share the bedroom together at the same time.

What I've learned is that just sex is easy, and empty sex isn't worth it. I'm a romantic at heart, and I'm going to care about those with whom I'm physical. If being close to someone is worth it, it's worth having more than once. I'm glad I'm old enough to know what I'm looking for, and it's a tall order of heart, soul, and tenderness.

I have the good fortune of one in my corner already! Living with an awe-inspiring lady here in Lima--she's not completely green to the poly scene anymore, but still pretty new and exploring. If things keep going well, we'll probably end up hitched and back in the States. I love being open and able to recieve new people God puts in my path for however long is meant to be, but realistically emotional commitments rarely tend to top "2," and when my priority is all of us sharing the bed--that's a lot of exercise in relationship skills by itself to have much more free time for some 'black book.' I find doing poly right makes me a lot pickier about partners, not less!

It's good to have places to share who I really am in a world that really doesn't want the burden of knowing. So I'm grateful for this place to reach out--looking forward to reading and participating more.

[IndianGuru]

Hello there,

We are a poly couple (44M/38F) with two kids in a big metro in India.
She is also submissive to me and willing to play bi.
I have lived in America before and have always loved my experience there.
I also had a great relationship with an American woman who is now raising our child there. She still occasionally joins us.

What I am looking for here is someone (around 25-45F) from US/Europe who would be willing to move in with us here in India after some initial online phone and personal meetings. Do get in touch if you are genuinely interested.