AnnabelMore
Active member
Wow! How much incredible growth and progress and good stuff can happen now because of all the things that are getting cleared up. These posts are probably the best argument I've seen for the "maybe you should let your partner read your thread" suggestion that often gets tossed out on this board, which is funny since this is one thread where people thought that would be a bad idea.
A couple of quick reactions:
I completely agree that integrating the different parts of your life, rather than compartmentalizing them is the healthier and more functional way to go. Rock on.
There was a thread here about BDSM activities and bruises making one partner unhappy in a poly relationship, you may find some useful stuff in it -- http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=23376
This is what I said there, which I still believe:
"...vanilla sex that's vigorous can leave all sorts of marks too in the form of hickies, bites, and scratches, so by asking you to come home unmarked he's basically asking you two not to get too into it, which is pretty unfair."
On the other hand, if they think they can tone it down or find non-bruise-forming play while still having fun, there if no reason they couldn't give that to you.
Go communication and honesty!! I think you guys are going to be just fine, and I wish you the best.
A couple of quick reactions:
I completely agree that integrating the different parts of your life, rather than compartmentalizing them is the healthier and more functional way to go. Rock on.
There was a thread here about BDSM activities and bruises making one partner unhappy in a poly relationship, you may find some useful stuff in it -- http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=23376
This is what I said there, which I still believe:
"...vanilla sex that's vigorous can leave all sorts of marks too in the form of hickies, bites, and scratches, so by asking you to come home unmarked he's basically asking you two not to get too into it, which is pretty unfair."
On the other hand, if they think they can tone it down or find non-bruise-forming play while still having fun, there if no reason they couldn't give that to you.
Go communication and honesty!! I think you guys are going to be just fine, and I wish you the best.