Starz198710
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Hi all!
I am a monogamous female from North Dakota. I have been with my husband for 13 years, married 6. A little information: he has cheated on me too many times to count in the 13 years we've been together. About 2 years ago, he had another affair with a woman named "Kari" while I was pregnant with my first child. I forgave him and took him back. A couple months later, he came to me and said he finally figured out why he has cheated so much in the past. He said he was polyamorous and in love with "Kari" but also loved me very much. I've been struggling for TWO years with accepting this new lifestyle and just dont think I can do it anymore. I love my husband with all my heart and soul. I have a hard time believing he is polyamorous and think it's just an excuse for him to have the best of both worlds so to speak. He constantly says that polyamory is based on a "mutual respect" but I'm feeling that he doesn't even care when he hurts me. Tonight was the last straw for me, I feel. He left me, in tears, to go have sex with "Kari". How is this respectful in any way? I'm so hurt by this polyamory stuff and don't think I can do it any more. I want my husband to myself 100%. Maybe I'm considered selfish in your community. I dont know. I guess I'm just looking for any insight people have to offer. Thanks in advance!
I am a monogamous female from North Dakota. I have been with my husband for 13 years, married 6. A little information: he has cheated on me too many times to count in the 13 years we've been together. About 2 years ago, he had another affair with a woman named "Kari" while I was pregnant with my first child. I forgave him and took him back. A couple months later, he came to me and said he finally figured out why he has cheated so much in the past. He said he was polyamorous and in love with "Kari" but also loved me very much. I've been struggling for TWO years with accepting this new lifestyle and just dont think I can do it anymore. I love my husband with all my heart and soul. I have a hard time believing he is polyamorous and think it's just an excuse for him to have the best of both worlds so to speak. He constantly says that polyamory is based on a "mutual respect" but I'm feeling that he doesn't even care when he hurts me. Tonight was the last straw for me, I feel. He left me, in tears, to go have sex with "Kari". How is this respectful in any way? I'm so hurt by this polyamory stuff and don't think I can do it any more. I want my husband to myself 100%. Maybe I'm considered selfish in your community. I dont know. I guess I'm just looking for any insight people have to offer. Thanks in advance!