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Personally? I would keep the baby and allow you to choose how involved you want to be with the understanding that 1- it will all be done in writing (aka you either sign your rights away or some sort of custody arrangement or whatever) and 2- I wouldn't lie to my kid so they will know you're their bio father but chose not to be a parent (if that's what you choose). If you chose to walk away from a baby, our friendship would be over.
In my case, though, Hubby would not hesitate to raise another baby as his own regardless of genetics so the baby would still have a joyful dad.
I would not do unnecessary prenatal testing. Paternity test can wait until after birth to reduce risk.
Honestly your language in this post makes you sound like someone I would not want to coparent with. Let you off the hook? You willingly engaged in sex with a fertile woman. You deserve to as equally as possible share those consequences. Grow up and take responsibility for your actions.
Okay. I get that this is just one personal opinion.
I don't want to be a parent without a family. Taking care of a kid alone would not be something I would want to do. I have expressed my thoughts to her so I guess she should take them in to consideration.
It would be all good if they were to keep the baby all by themselves and maybe I could be something like a godfather if I happened to be the father.
As far as I know a test can be taken without risk. I think it was from the moms blood. I could be wrong about this though.
Well what can you expect? I don't want to be a single dad. If I deserve equal share of the consequences, I should have a equal day in about keeping the baby or not?
Unfortunately, it's entirely up to her and what she wants to do. Her body, her pregnancy, her choice. You had sex with her so if there are consequences, you share them. If you don't think that's fair, then don't do things that could result in babies.
If you want to know what your rights are, then yes- you'll have to request a paternity test. In that case, you have all the legal rights and responsibilities of a parent. With regards to what shape you want that to be- you can voice your opinions, but you can't really do anything about "being a parent without a family" if she wants to keep the baby and doesn't want to live as a family.
Nothing wrong with sharing your wants with her, but ultimately, she's the one who will be making the decisions regarding the baby.
Actually everything is not up to her. If I were to be a legal parent, I will have the same rights as her. If she wants me to be a dad without my consent I don't know if she is to be considered a friend at all.
A disgruntled parent can make things very hard for the other parent.
Actually everything is not up to her. If I were to be a legal parent, I will have the same rights as her. If she wants me to be a dad without my consent I don't know if she is to be considered a friend at all.
A disgruntled parent can make things very hard for the other parent.
Actually everything is not up to her. If I were to be a legal parent, I will have the same rights as her. If she wants me to be a dad without my consent I don't know if she is to be considered a friend at all.
A disgruntled parent can make things very hard for the other parent.
Actually everything is not up to her. If I were to be a legal parent, I will have the same rights as her. If she wants me to be a dad without my consent I don't know if she is to be considered a friend at all.
A disgruntled parent can make things very hard for the other parent.