Octandempus
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Hello, everyone.
I have identified as being polyamorous for about two years now, though I feel I have been polyamorous forever. I have lived with a partner for about four years now. We are not sexually or romantically involved, but I view our relationship as a strong platonic one. We are best friends. We are partners financially. We do nearly everything together. mes. He is disabled so he does rely on my help with many things physically, though I feel that he has been a strong emotional support for me and so we are even. Even though we are just platonic friends, I will always live with them and have them be a part of my life. I have always felt polyamorous, I just haven't really been able to ever practice it. Well, four days ago out of sheer curiosity, I made an OKCupid account and literally the first person I find on there was a girl's profile I really liked(Pansexual polyamorous person) so I sent a message just as they were sending me a message. 300 walls of text later and two days later, we meet up. We talked for three and half hours about politics, interests, sociology, and so many weird things. At the end of our date we kissed and embraced each other and it was (And I hate to say this) magical. Meanwhile, my current partner, I will call him C, worries that I am moving too fast with, let's call her L, which I do understand. One one hand it is way too fast considering I just met L four days ago to feel so romantically attracted to her, yet I am and she admitted she was to me. So right now I'm trying to tone things down and take things slow with L, because C, reasonably because of what's happened in his past with people he was friends with, is very worried that I might run off with L. So I'm trying to open a dialogue between L and C but C feels like if they bring something up, they are going to get teamed up on. I think C really worries that if it comes to sides, I will take L's side I suppose. What should I do? I love C and they are my partner in crime and bestest friend, but I am in love with L. I want to be with them both.
I have identified as being polyamorous for about two years now, though I feel I have been polyamorous forever. I have lived with a partner for about four years now. We are not sexually or romantically involved, but I view our relationship as a strong platonic one. We are best friends. We are partners financially. We do nearly everything together. mes. He is disabled so he does rely on my help with many things physically, though I feel that he has been a strong emotional support for me and so we are even. Even though we are just platonic friends, I will always live with them and have them be a part of my life. I have always felt polyamorous, I just haven't really been able to ever practice it. Well, four days ago out of sheer curiosity, I made an OKCupid account and literally the first person I find on there was a girl's profile I really liked(Pansexual polyamorous person) so I sent a message just as they were sending me a message. 300 walls of text later and two days later, we meet up. We talked for three and half hours about politics, interests, sociology, and so many weird things. At the end of our date we kissed and embraced each other and it was (And I hate to say this) magical. Meanwhile, my current partner, I will call him C, worries that I am moving too fast with, let's call her L, which I do understand. One one hand it is way too fast considering I just met L four days ago to feel so romantically attracted to her, yet I am and she admitted she was to me. So right now I'm trying to tone things down and take things slow with L, because C, reasonably because of what's happened in his past with people he was friends with, is very worried that I might run off with L. So I'm trying to open a dialogue between L and C but C feels like if they bring something up, they are going to get teamed up on. I think C really worries that if it comes to sides, I will take L's side I suppose. What should I do? I love C and they are my partner in crime and bestest friend, but I am in love with L. I want to be with them both.