TurquoiseMouse
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Summary: I'm the hinge to live-in partner (7 years together, see him every day) and LDR partner (friends 10 years, partners <1, see him every few months). We all share a hobby (Live-in and LDR became friends when I introduced them 7 years ago, are not currently friends, but also don't hate each other). LDR partner travels to lots of events for said hobby. I did also in the past, and have just recently started to again (went to one last weekend by myself, neither partner was there).
There are three coming up (one in spring, two in summer) that LDR partner is for sure going to, I plan on going to, and live-in partner has now also expressed interest in going. Live-in partner has not wanted to go to many of these events in the past (though he is more involved in the hobby lately), and did not want to go to the one that I went to last weekend either (close to where we live). So it makes me wonder if he wants to go to these upcoming events mostly because LDR partner will be there, and he doesn't want to feel left out?
All the events are flying-distance from all three of us, so there would be multiple hotel rooms. Live-in partner is not comfortable observing flirting/PDA between LDR and I. How do I navigate all three of us being in the same space/time share/PDA/not making live-in feel left out, but also getting to spend time with LDR (and other long-distance friends that I don't see much) whom I don't see as often, when live-in probably won't want to be around LDR at all?
Also, I'm way more of a social butterfly than live-in (made tons of new friends at the event last weekend, and had a blast flitting between groups of friends and doing what I wanted/when I wanted/where I wanted etc), and I wonder if he would be sad if I wasn't by his side the majority of the time at these events. I expressed to him that I would be going to the events solely because I want to attend the events, no matter who else goes. And he said he would want to go "with" me.
Thanks in advance, and I would be happy to elaborate/clarify if needed!
There are three coming up (one in spring, two in summer) that LDR partner is for sure going to, I plan on going to, and live-in partner has now also expressed interest in going. Live-in partner has not wanted to go to many of these events in the past (though he is more involved in the hobby lately), and did not want to go to the one that I went to last weekend either (close to where we live). So it makes me wonder if he wants to go to these upcoming events mostly because LDR partner will be there, and he doesn't want to feel left out?
All the events are flying-distance from all three of us, so there would be multiple hotel rooms. Live-in partner is not comfortable observing flirting/PDA between LDR and I. How do I navigate all three of us being in the same space/time share/PDA/not making live-in feel left out, but also getting to spend time with LDR (and other long-distance friends that I don't see much) whom I don't see as often, when live-in probably won't want to be around LDR at all?
Also, I'm way more of a social butterfly than live-in (made tons of new friends at the event last weekend, and had a blast flitting between groups of friends and doing what I wanted/when I wanted/where I wanted etc), and I wonder if he would be sad if I wasn't by his side the majority of the time at these events. I expressed to him that I would be going to the events solely because I want to attend the events, no matter who else goes. And he said he would want to go "with" me.
Thanks in advance, and I would be happy to elaborate/clarify if needed!