castle33
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hi gang. been awhile since I posted. i'll make it fast. my husband, a good male friend, and I all play DnD. yesterday hubby and friend (i'll call him the dark knight) got into a battle of pride and game rules. this fight has been brewing for a few weeks now. I love my husband and I care deeply for the dark knight. I wanted to have the knight as a boyfriend but things never turn out the way we want right? I have settled for a non sexual "omg I heart you" friendship with the knight and the hubby and the knight both know this.
my problem is that I feel my husband was in the wrong, even though the rule book of the game is on his side. I could care less about what they were fighting over (super tower shield vs. hit points and what not) but I hated being in the middle. I want to support my husband but I also want my knight to feel as if he is safe to DM the way he chooses. I know I sound like a super geek but I don't know how to let my husband know i'm with him even though I don't agree with his choices and at the same time be there for the knight as he deals with not always getting what he wants.
how do you guys deal with issues like this? not the gaming but disagreements in general. basically two men fighting over something small but it really being about more than just a game. the knight is angry because our DnD group is turning on him and the hubby is upset because he wants to "put the knight in his place".
at this point they are still both standing on their soap boxes and I just want them to calm down and remember that we are all playing because it's fun and we like each other.
how can I tell them both that I am on their sides without starting a war?
I know it seems simple and geek like but gaming is what brings us all together. it is what we do. I love them both and just need help mediating.
does this even make sense.
a little history: I am poly, been poly for years and years. my husband is polyminded and still new to this. the dark knight knows nothing about poly stuff but has remained my friend even though he knows I like him but he is not interested in exploring anything at this time. maybe never (i'm okay with that). I will say that seeing them get all puffy with each other turns me on but only if I know they both care enough to still be friends and continue gaming together. I don't think the hubby realizes how hurt I would be if the knight were to be pushed away.
*end rant*
thoughts???
my problem is that I feel my husband was in the wrong, even though the rule book of the game is on his side. I could care less about what they were fighting over (super tower shield vs. hit points and what not) but I hated being in the middle. I want to support my husband but I also want my knight to feel as if he is safe to DM the way he chooses. I know I sound like a super geek but I don't know how to let my husband know i'm with him even though I don't agree with his choices and at the same time be there for the knight as he deals with not always getting what he wants.
how do you guys deal with issues like this? not the gaming but disagreements in general. basically two men fighting over something small but it really being about more than just a game. the knight is angry because our DnD group is turning on him and the hubby is upset because he wants to "put the knight in his place".
at this point they are still both standing on their soap boxes and I just want them to calm down and remember that we are all playing because it's fun and we like each other.
how can I tell them both that I am on their sides without starting a war?
I know it seems simple and geek like but gaming is what brings us all together. it is what we do. I love them both and just need help mediating.
does this even make sense.
a little history: I am poly, been poly for years and years. my husband is polyminded and still new to this. the dark knight knows nothing about poly stuff but has remained my friend even though he knows I like him but he is not interested in exploring anything at this time. maybe never (i'm okay with that). I will say that seeing them get all puffy with each other turns me on but only if I know they both care enough to still be friends and continue gaming together. I don't think the hubby realizes how hurt I would be if the knight were to be pushed away.
*end rant*
thoughts???