River
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It's probably a bad idea to spill one's heart out onto The Internet, but I'll do it a little anyway.
I've been having some difficulty transitioning from friendship with cuddles and kisses to friendship without ... with my new friend.
One of my new but also bestest and wisest of friends read the situation right and said I need to find a way of being with him without desire. Not so easy to do, as he's so gorgeous. But facts is facts. And my longing can do none of us any good.
I actually really do love him, but it's not exactly easy to have that love always be "pure" ... without desire. Not that desire makes love impure! But wrongheaded or wronghearted desire is impure, and so I have to try and get my head and heart right about him -- to let go of him in order to love him in a wholesome way that won't hurt him or me.
Thank goodness for wise, loving friends who can read things clear and say it like it is.
I've been having some difficulty transitioning from friendship with cuddles and kisses to friendship without ... with my new friend.
One of my new but also bestest and wisest of friends read the situation right and said I need to find a way of being with him without desire. Not so easy to do, as he's so gorgeous. But facts is facts. And my longing can do none of us any good.
I actually really do love him, but it's not exactly easy to have that love always be "pure" ... without desire. Not that desire makes love impure! But wrongheaded or wronghearted desire is impure, and so I have to try and get my head and heart right about him -- to let go of him in order to love him in a wholesome way that won't hurt him or me.
Thank goodness for wise, loving friends who can read things clear and say it like it is.