MsChristy
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My partner H was due to visit last weekend (we do long distance) with his other partner, A. A day before they were due to visit, he called to tell me that due to problems he and A have been having with their relationship, she had asked him to avoid doing anything sexual at all with me, so that they could have more time to focus on themselves. I was not happy about this, and made that very clear to H, but he told me he did not want things to be awkward for the visit, and he would discuss it with her more after the visit.
So they visited and I even got to have a 1-on-1 talk with A for the first time and a long while and we started to bond and she started to see where I was coming from. Seemed like things were going great. Then one night after A had gone to bed H and I stayed up, had a bit too much to drink, and we ended up violating her request. As soon as we realized what we were doing, we both immediately stopped.
I told my husband C what happened, and he is fine with it/doesn't care. However, H does not want to come clean to A because he is worried with the issues they are having she will see it as a reason to leave him, which he does not want right now as they are trying to work on things. I hate the idea of keeping secrets, and never really wanted to be in this situation, but am honoring H's request not to tell A.
I hate being in this situation, and am not sure we are doing the right thing, but I also think he should be the one to tell A what happened.
So they visited and I even got to have a 1-on-1 talk with A for the first time and a long while and we started to bond and she started to see where I was coming from. Seemed like things were going great. Then one night after A had gone to bed H and I stayed up, had a bit too much to drink, and we ended up violating her request. As soon as we realized what we were doing, we both immediately stopped.
I told my husband C what happened, and he is fine with it/doesn't care. However, H does not want to come clean to A because he is worried with the issues they are having she will see it as a reason to leave him, which he does not want right now as they are trying to work on things. I hate the idea of keeping secrets, and never really wanted to be in this situation, but am honoring H's request not to tell A.
I hate being in this situation, and am not sure we are doing the right thing, but I also think he should be the one to tell A what happened.