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Old 03-08-2019, 08:17 PM
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Well, DarkKnight had a really good phone interview yesterday, but unfortunately, the position wage ceiling was $20,000 less than what he was making. Itís a local job and sounded amazing for his skill set, so he was super bummed. The interviewer was bummed too, and he said to please let him know if he could do anything else to entice him. We talked about it last night and crunched some numbers. HDarkknight sent them a thank you email this morning and said that if they could raise the salary like $8,000 and offer some benefit increases he would be interested. The guy messaged him back instantly, saying that would be obtainable, and DarkKnight is now scheduled for an interview Monday morning. Whoo hoo!

When we factor in the cost of DarkKnight commuting to DC daily, itís not cheap. Factored in with him having facial tics - driving that distance is worrisome. Also, since we are not going to have $400 a pay period 401(k) loans to pay off - we can make this happen. We will have to see how the interview goes. That said, also this morning, he received two emails - one asking to set up a phone interview with a company one town over, and another asking for clarification on some of his salary requirements and what they are offering. Every day he has been finding stuff to interview for, so thatís good.
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Old 03-09-2019, 01:00 PM
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I had some bad depression last night and this morning I am still down in a pit. I really canít stop worrying about my oldest daughter. Itís making me ill. I donít know how to not care about her situation, or how to stop myself from caring that she wonít call or text me. Itís impossible to detach from my child, as she carries my heart wherever she goes.
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Old 03-09-2019, 03:26 PM
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My little brother just called me. Apparently he was in a super bad car accident last night, with his baby momma. They were doing 55 and went through an intersection where the cross street had a stop, but they didn’t. A car came down the cross street also going 55 and didn’t stop. Sent his car airborne, flipping, ended upside down in a ditch. They were both okay though my brother had glass in his eye. His car was completely totaled. They were on the way to pick up their two kids from daycare - so lucky they weren’t in the car too.
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Old 03-11-2019, 04:57 PM
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DarkKnight had an in-person interview this morning and he said it went really well. He is now waiting to hear back about the second round of interviews. He also has a phone interview with a different company today.

Right now I am waiting for my therapy appointment to start.

My period is ending so I am crampy and unhappy. After my appointment I have to run around and find shredded cheese and 50 pounds of ground beef for a Taco giveaway we are hosting tomorrow.

Today is also my 13th wedding anniversary with DarkKnight. We celebrated yesterday with dinner at BJís restaurant & brewery, and we went to a live show of The Three Musketeers at the local college. It was really great! We had fun sexy times afterward too. It was yummy!
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Old 03-13-2019, 03:03 PM
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I spent yesterday and last night sick AF. Ugh. Nauseated, unable to regulate my body temperature, alternating between thick sludge and swift rivers of poo out my back end - this has not been fun. I caught whatever has been causing PunkRock to be ill. He is finally on the mend, but I am a wreck. I didnít sleep much last night because I was drenched in sweat one minute and then freezing cold the next. Itís made me really weak.

DarkKnight ended up being my hero yesterday. He handled the taco giveaway all day solo, and we had a large Amazon order come in, full of special request items that had to be marked and processed. I was super lucky he was able to cover for me while I tried to stay very still and not puke in the bed. I watched the first season of the show Colony on Netflix. I canít say that I remember most of it. Seriously, I havenít been this sick in a long time, and itís terrible because most of itís invisible - Iím not coughing or sneezing, but trust me when I say Iíd rather have that, than the vomiting.

Good news - DarkKnight did receive another email from the interview on Monday; they had him donone of those personality tests. He submitted that right away. He has another interview request email from another company - he messaged them his availability for a meeting tomorrow or Friday. So he is doing okay in his job search.

Tomorrow I am supposed to drive my daughter to the foot doctor - sheís afraid she may have stress fractures along where she broke her foot in half previously. She could go herself, but she called and asked if I would go with her for moral support. Thank goodness DarkKnight received the subsidized COBRA extension as part of his severance package - we are paying less than $200 a month for the same medical plan he had while employed. His old work is paying like $1700. I am so glad we donít have to shoulder that cost! And at least we have the insurance, because so am sure my youngest will need xrays at the very least tomorrow, when she goes to see the specialist.

My nephew is supposed to be coming down this weekend from NY for a visit with his boyfriend. He will be staying with my daughter and theyíre supposed to go to DC on Sunday. I feel bad he is coming down when the cold comes back. Itís been gorgeous here weather-wise lately but the weekend is going to be freezing again

I need to shower but I am afraid that I will be sick during it. I wasnít able to hang on to breakfast or lunch yesterday but I managed to keep down my dinner, though I ate much less than normal. I had oatmeal today but itís already not sitting well.
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Old 03-16-2019, 05:00 PM
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I feel much improved. Hurray!

My daughterís foot has some bone spur issues on the top, but after an X-ray, the surgeon says he wants her to have a CAT scan so now she is waiting for a referral for that.

Thursday was Steak and a Blow Job day, so we had cheesesteaks for dinner and DarkKnight had a good time later. PunkRock took a rain check. Lol We are together tonight so we shall see!

DarkKnight had a staffing agency interview yesterday and he felt positive about it. They have some placement ideas that are temp to perm and pay more than he used to be making, but they are in the city, so we are wishy washy on them. However, he is open to it, so he told them to submit his info.

Right now DarkKnight are seeing the Captain Marvel movie. I hope to see Captive State later this week with PunkRock.
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Old 03-20-2019, 11:15 AM
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I’m doing a chicken bbq giveaway today at the Box, so it’s going to be busy at my House soon. Each person signed up will get a pack of chicken quarters, a bottle of BBQ sauce, a box of cornbread, a can of green beans, a box of scalloped potatoes and a pack of pre-made cookie mix. This one was quick - I had enough cash donations to purchase the meat on Monday, so I posted a picture of all 20 packs that morning, and by yesterday evening, all of the sides had been donated. Boom, done. The schedule was full in one hour with the 20 recipients, and I have a wait list of 24. Once I get up outta bed, I will need to mark all of the UPC codes (I already did the chicken) and get everything bagged for pickup, which starts at 11 am. That’s, that’s my day y’all!

My oldest nephew came down to see us from NY this weekend, and this time he brought his boyfriend, who was hilarious. I got along with him very well. We had an hour long discussion about coming out, how poly works for different people, and just life experiences in general. My nephew is 19, and I think his boyfriend is like 23? His boyfriend is out to his parents but he isn’t allowed to date. He is from a different cultural background, and he has to hide his relationships or the family will cut off his support while in college. He has a year left for his Master’s degree, so he’s struggling to bring together his life. He is wanting an open relationship, but my nephew is resistant. I don’t think talking to me helped, other than to clarify the difference between being open and being poly.

I finally heard how my nephew came out to his mom. She had grounded him and had taken his phone, and she saw him getting text alerts from a guy he was seeing. Apparently she went crazy, screaming and shouting about how this wasn’t him, and how he would never get married or have kids or have a good life. Apparently she has never apologized and she still is very uncomfortable with his orientation. He says she makes comments that he isn’t gay, but most definitely bi, and that he will end up with a girl eventually. My nephew’s boyfriend said she was very dismissive of him low key - she made a lot of comments that could be taken very badly but he said it was always just low key on the line acceptable, so he just tries to make it mean the best possible comment, if that makes sense. Ugh. My nephew hasn’t told his dad at all.

My heart really breaks for this situation. Living a lie or trying to present a fake version of yourself is so sad. It’s shitty even on poly, having to pretend to be monogamous - people fear for their jobs. I am so glad I can be out and live my life authentically. I told my nephew that he always has a home with us if he needs a place to land, or a place to leave from. <3

The job search continues for DarkKnight. The firm in town passed on him - they feel that his skills are way above what they are hiring for, and that they can’t offer him what he needs to keep him long term. Bummer, but accurate. I am starting to get nervous - he is still applying for jobs but everything is like an hour and a half away. That commute will not work long term. We may end up having to move and the thought of that is not something I want to contemplate right now. I don’t think we would sell the house - I would probably rent it out to my daughter & son who are renting an apartment together right now. We can trust them not to trash it, and that way we wouldn’t lose our shirts trying to sell it.

PunkRock’s brother, LordTenderHeart, had a DUI in December and he was sentenced Monday. He was supposed to call us yesterday but we didn’t hear from him at all. I called his county jail, and they told me he was there for 15 days. However, the case search says that he was sentenced to 60 days with 60 days suspended. So we don’t know what is going on. I have his lawyer’s information, so I am going to call there today. We don’t know if LordTenderHeart made plans for his African Gray parrot, and we don’t want it starving or dying of dehydration!

Oh! I had my first workout session and I did ok. I left dripping sweat though, so I am somewhat discouraged. I can’t have that happen for too long without having side effects. I have HS, so that is sure to be triggered and made worse through exercise, and I have another autoimmune disorder - I am allergic to my own sweat. Not the physical sensation of having sweat on my skin, but the hormones involved with sweating trigger an immune response where the sweat glands are attacked. Fucking loveliness. I was hoping that the classes would have less cardio, but so far that’s a no. I am supposed to be in a 7 am age 40+ Strength building class, but I can’t make that happen yet so I am in a 5 pm strength/cardio mix class. Both classes are MWF so I will go again tonight.
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Old 03-20-2019, 11:18 PM
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OMG todayís workout about killed me. I did okay during the workout but now that I am home I can barely do the stairs or walk like a normal person. Gah! I showered but that doesnít seem to help the backs of my thighs, holy shit. Thank god I have tomorrow off because I would be rubbery trying to work out then!

DarkKnight got another job message tonight - the email says it pays in a range that is perfect for his skill set, so yay! Tomorrow he is going to take an online something or other, which is their first round of stuff, I guess, before scheduling an interview.
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