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But the omni label ... freaks me out. Because if we were to be true to the omni part, it would mean EVERYTHING. (Children ...
>Yuk<
-Not only nonvoluntary sex (ie with those who can't meaningfully consent, like children),
-but also involuntary sex (sex directly against the clearly expressed wishes of one or more of those involved), eg rape
-and even getting a thrill out of 'cheating' on an existing partner
these are all outside the poly boundaries, and rightly so, as we insist on full informed consent of all relevant parties. I agree with TP, if that is the range that the 'omni-' conjours up in some people's minds, I do not want it linked to poly. We already have trouble getting people to notice we mean what we say about being honest to our OSO(s).
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Though the "polyfexible" offered above could prove useful in some fashion. I could end up supporting that.
In particular, polyflexible indicates a deliberate openness to being in a mono relationship, and is a useful word (imho) because we all know that it applies only to some polys.
I imagine myself using it to emphasise to a mono potential partner that this poly here
does feel able to give a mono committment for the duration of the relationship. It quite neatly makes two things clear at once:
- I am able to offer you a mono
relationship
- I am continuing to own my poly
identity
In short, it seems to me to be a word that enlightens rather than mystifies.
I can't remember where I saw the word, but do remember feeling very strongly 'i like that word and will be using it of myself at some time'
@RedPepper: does
polyflexible do everything you wanted to do with the word
omniamory? If not, why?