Many people living that way imply this - as most people assume there livestyle is better than those of otheres - the very reason they chose it, right? Then people thinking a bit deeper recognize the asymmetry in this style of thinking and stigmatize it as arrogant (like in this http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showpost.php?p=299445&postcount=42.
My view on this: in general if you have a sea of possibilities to create loving relationships and then choose for you that only a tiny subset of it can make you happy and you limit your life and that of your partner to it, you should have good reasons for it and be able to articulate them! Just getting angry by the sheer mentioning of other possibilities or just stating "I never could do this" or referring to relegion or moral does not do the trick.
No wonder polyamorists who (mostly) went through the process of thinking through their desires, options, fears and so on come to the conclusion that they are a step ahead.
Even more so if you see how convinced monogomists suddenly change their mind when they fall in love (and then experience that their current/previous love does not disolve all of a sudden as expected) or you look at the world full of cheating (shure, all those who have not cheated yet are the better (ah - there is it again, the thinking to be 'better' I mean ) ones and never will do it - lol ).
My view on this: in general if you have a sea of possibilities to create loving relationships and then choose for you that only a tiny subset of it can make you happy and you limit your life and that of your partner to it, you should have good reasons for it and be able to articulate them! Just getting angry by the sheer mentioning of other possibilities or just stating "I never could do this" or referring to relegion or moral does not do the trick.
No wonder polyamorists who (mostly) went through the process of thinking through their desires, options, fears and so on come to the conclusion that they are a step ahead.
Even more so if you see how convinced monogomists suddenly change their mind when they fall in love (and then experience that their current/previous love does not disolve all of a sudden as expected) or you look at the world full of cheating (shure, all those who have not cheated yet are the better (ah - there is it again, the thinking to be 'better' I mean ) ones and never will do it - lol ).