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Old 07-19-2018, 07:40 PM
Evie Evie is offline
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Adam had an after work beer with Mike yesterday. They had fun, they both reported back to me how much they enjoyed each other's conversation.

Then Adam went off on what turned into a date. Sweet, that part was fine. What wasn't fine was a phone service glitch that meant I couldn't get hold of him once bedtime rolled around and he still wasn't home and no word.

This is exactly the stuff that spikes my worry.

I messaged Mike because he has date girl's number. He messaged her, and then I played stupid phone match three games until I heard from Adam. The grapevine didn't precisely work, Adam did get to his phone and snap it out of the glitch before she got to hers, but I was just so glad he was still there and hadn't left to come home a couple of hours before and not made it.

I thanked Mike.

I cried with relief.

And Adam is very sorry, and we'll update our systems so I have access to a contact detail other than him when he's out (and vice versa).
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Old 07-21-2018, 11:07 PM
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Today (22/7) is the day Lance gets back to the UK. Except time differences mean that it'll be my tomorrow. And I'm still thinking I'll leave it to him to reach out. It's been a very long two and a half weeks. I've done so much but not been able to tell him about any of it. I hope I'll be able to sift through the recount with him, but right now I have no clue as to our "status".
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Old 07-22-2018, 08:54 PM
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Lance has let me know he's back home. Too exhausted to talk right now, which is very understandable, but will endeavour to catch up during the week.

Golf might be up this way on Friday! Has suggested coffee if he is. I appreciate the intention.

Cheese just texted to say he's found a new chick. Oh thank god. His 'it's complicated' was so wrong for him. And he knew it.

Today is another stunning winter's day. I will aim to spend a little time in the garden as well as with the books today.

Oh, yesterday I swapped some books out from the bookshelf. I now have my collection of Asimov's non fiction at hand.
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Old 07-24-2018, 10:57 PM
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I spoke with Lance this morning. We mostly talked about my last 3 weeks rather than his. He's not ready to talk about his. But he said he missed me and thought about me every day.
We're good.
And I have a new standing order. I'm a very happy girl.
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Old 07-27-2018, 11:05 PM
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It's Saturday and I'm procrastinating until I am going out to the munch this afternoon in town.
I went for a walk this morning. Fourth day in a row now. Longest yet. My muscles everywhere have stopped complaining with the new exercise except every time I pick up the pace into a jog my right calf muscle feels terrible, almost like a cramp but not quite as intense. I should ask Universe Fan about it. We're still vaguely in touch.
But in short, I'm learning my body again. I'll be kind to it and stick to a brisk walk for a while longer.
Adam is out of town for the weekend. I used to look forward to making other dates on weekends like this, but I simply don't care right now. Wee libido slump happening. That's one of the reasons I want to get fit again, I always feel sexier when I'm in clothes I just can't wear right now.
I'm not getting anything productive done here, I should just go into town and do some groceries I can't get here.

Onwards.
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Old 07-29-2018, 02:27 AM
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What is it with you Americans and not cooking?
Somehow Lance and I ended up talking about making dinner and he said he hasn't had a home made meal cooked for him in years. Years. And I'm thinking, hold on, Jen visited at April and you've just got back from the States, you've had over a month of in-person time this year and she didn't cook once???? (Apparently not).
I asked Adam about this, as he has been to the States albeit many years ago, and he agreed that a home cooked dinner was a rare thing. Mind. Blown. UF cooks, he sent me food porn! Apparently this is anomalous behaviour??????? This is even more perturbing (to me) as Jen has 3 kids. I can't imagine not cooking from scratch for kids. Culture shock galore. Can anyone enlighten me as to this not cooking thing?
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Old 07-29-2018, 06:21 AM
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What is it with you Americans and not cooking?

I can't imagine not cooking from scratch for kids. Culture shock galore. Can anyone enlighten me as to this not cooking thing?
I cannot enlighten you, I'm afraid.

Both my partners live in The States - although one is European by birth. Both cook regularly. When I spent a month there last year, I got home-cooked meals the majority of the time. When we all went to stay a week in a rented cabin, we shopped for groceries beforehand and cooked each and every day. Sure, we also had our fair share of "take-out" but this was the exception rather than the rule.
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Old 07-29-2018, 05:01 PM
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I live in the US. I cook a few times a week, mostly on the weekends. I bake every week.
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Old 07-29-2018, 08:09 PM
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I live in a suburban city in the western US. We were house hunting some years ago and when we were enthusing over the spacious and well equipped kitchen of one house, our realtor said "But how often will you really use the kitchen?" I was very surprised by the question and answered "Wellll...Every day 3 times a day?"

I have heard that some people like to have a fancy kitchen but almost always eat food prepared elsewhere. I would have thought that was an big city thing but you can get take out or delivery easily almost anywhere. Not to mention all the packaged meals that barely need more than a microwave.

Still, it seems strange to me that people might not cook.

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Old 07-29-2018, 08:38 PM
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I would adore a decent kitchen!!!! Our house really needs renovation, but we don't have the income at the moment.

Thank you all, it's nice to know that cooking is alive and well in the States. I guess if I lived in Wellington (our capital and my original home town) then (with enough income) I could eat out more frequently, but where I live now we have:
2 Chinese takeaways
1 terrible pizza shop (not even a chain one)
Subway
Indian (hit or miss depending on which chef is on)
A burger place that's a fixed food truck style (shipping container)
A couple of fish and chip shops
A couple of bar/restaurants (both pretty bad)
A few lunch places, (pies/sushi/coffee and panini or whatever is in fashion right now).

But generally, you'd get bored pretty quickly around here if you couldn't cook!

I have an assignment due today. It's written, I just need to upload it.

At the munch on Saturday a casual play partner showed up unexpectedly. He brought a new chick with him and I ended up back at their motel that night. I assisted with her first Sybian experience, but then it broke!!! Hahaha, I sure hope he can fix it. I don't like it myself, but it's his party trick. I was drinking so I stayed over but didn't sleep well, so I spent Sunday very quietly and just did the grocery shopping and had a few phone calls. I talked to my parents. Long overdue. Dad has had a mole removed and is awaiting biopsy results. Mum had an MRI on her shoulder, although they probably won't be able to fix what they find anyway. I told Mum my uni results from semester one. She sounded disappointed. I didn't even call her on it. She'd just say she didn't mean it. My GPA is 6.75 here, which is your 3.3 according to Google, or a very high B+. That'll do.
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