jayblue122
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So I know that this is not a kink-poly board but as my question is more relationship based I thought I would give it a shot.
So I met this guy, Dan, thru the local kick community. We started talking online and were flirting and getting to know each other. Around the same time he also met the sub who he is now dating. (Ellen)
2 weeks ago me and him did a scene together at a local party. There was cuddling and kissing involved in the after care.
We continued to chat and text and flirt and 1 week ago we went on a date. This got somewhat physical but we did not take it too far. The next day after talking to his gf about us, she got jealous and asked him to back off. She said it was okay to scene but not to be affectionate. I know he would not give up sceneing so this may be more on him than her-- he is poly and does not seem to want to be in a mono relationship, but he agreed to this while they work things out. He had asked me to go to a class with him the next day, but then she decided to go and so he canceled on me last minute. She also has a gf person whom with things are complicated. They had a bit of a fight but apparently resolved it and they are more mono now while they figure things out.
He still texts me and flirts and is giving the impression that things will open up when she gets more comfortable with poly...I met her once and I don't really like her. She seems nice enough but she also feels sort of fake and whiny. And a bit manipulative.
I am not sure what to do. I was starting to like him but now I don't know how to handle the situation. I am sure that the more involved I get with him the more feelings I will have, but I don't want to not be affectionate with him. Should I just back off? Is it silly to hold out hope? I'm not sure how to act around him. Or around her. Particularly cause he acts different around me when she is around- way more distant. I will defiantly be seeing him this weekend and I may be seeing her.
I was really starting to like him.....
So I met this guy, Dan, thru the local kick community. We started talking online and were flirting and getting to know each other. Around the same time he also met the sub who he is now dating. (Ellen)
2 weeks ago me and him did a scene together at a local party. There was cuddling and kissing involved in the after care.
We continued to chat and text and flirt and 1 week ago we went on a date. This got somewhat physical but we did not take it too far. The next day after talking to his gf about us, she got jealous and asked him to back off. She said it was okay to scene but not to be affectionate. I know he would not give up sceneing so this may be more on him than her-- he is poly and does not seem to want to be in a mono relationship, but he agreed to this while they work things out. He had asked me to go to a class with him the next day, but then she decided to go and so he canceled on me last minute. She also has a gf person whom with things are complicated. They had a bit of a fight but apparently resolved it and they are more mono now while they figure things out.
He still texts me and flirts and is giving the impression that things will open up when she gets more comfortable with poly...I met her once and I don't really like her. She seems nice enough but she also feels sort of fake and whiny. And a bit manipulative.
I am not sure what to do. I was starting to like him but now I don't know how to handle the situation. I am sure that the more involved I get with him the more feelings I will have, but I don't want to not be affectionate with him. Should I just back off? Is it silly to hold out hope? I'm not sure how to act around him. Or around her. Particularly cause he acts different around me when she is around- way more distant. I will defiantly be seeing him this weekend and I may be seeing her.
I was really starting to like him.....
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