Prettyinpink
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Hello everyone. My husband and I have been together for almost 2 years. During this whole time we have had an open relationship. My partner does not date others but rather he meets girls, develops friendships with them and then will play with these friends (both sexual and BDSM play). Throughout the relationship we have made, changed, and gotten ride of many different boundaries. Mainly the reason for getting ride of some boundaries is that my partner breaks them and then tells me that the boundary was not working for him (he even breaks the boundaries he makes). Some of the boundaries include kissing a girl in our home, sexually touching other girls before asking, telling me he is no longer pursing women but then sexting them and receiving dirty photos from them. I have to add that I never asked him to stop pursing women this was his own choice. I even frequently ask him if there are any boundaries that our not working for him. Now I know that I should drop what happens in the past but I am finding it hard to drop this issue as trust keeps getting broken. I am at the point where I don’t want him to play with others until we gain that trust back. I had small jealousy issues at the beginning of the relationship and I am finding that the more he lies to me the more jealous I am feeling (I realize the jealously is my problem and that he can not fix it). I want to know how I can overcome this jealousy? How can we build trust again? Is it wrong for me to ask him to stop pursing other girls until our relationship is solid and the trust is rebuilt?