I promised updates:
Don’t know how to start this so I will dive in again...
On the baby front, the mother has decided to keep it and there are some fairly serious concerns as to paternity. Within a few weeks of typing my first post her ob/gyn called to say she had teated positive for chlamidya. After that their relationship deteriorated and it was decided they worked best as friends so it came down to a choice as far as they were concerned of who would get custody. With her deciding to keep her child he has washed his hands of it. That’s the clinical bare bones version.
On our front, we have been fighting for a long while now. It would get better and get worse but it hadn’t stopped. He started a relationship with another woman and has broken up with me. He does not want a relationship or a friendship. He has chosen to seek happiness with this woman and does seem happier for it. I am concerned that this is NRE and that she will end up hurt at the end of it but it is no longer my place to put my nose in his affairs.
He has offered that if we can keep the bills paid and dogs well taken care of until tax return time, he will leave us the house, appliances, and furnishings, and move out permanently. It’s not a happy situation but it would allow me to not have to uproot a mildly autistic daughter who doesn’t deal well with change and is already reeling from the fact that her stepfather is no longer her daddy.
So that is where we stand. Before any ask. I do not know how I feel. I am mostly numb and apprehensive about being on my own. I mourn the loss of the relationship and seem to alternate between sadness and numbness. I am putting on a happy face for my girl. She needs to know it will all be ok.
Again I thank you all for your support. This was my first poly relationship and I may have failed at it in many ways but have learned a lot as well.