Flowerchild
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I was browsing a thread, and came across a concern about cowboys/cowgirls. Where the poster stated something along the lines of, "We (as a couple) approve each other's other partners, in order to avoid that person thinking they can steal our love away. We do not allow that kind of thinking into the house."
While I understand that, my take on cowboys/cowgirls is: who cares? You can't control what other people think. Say that your partner's OSO believes they can steal him/her away. Unless your partner is willing to abandon you, nothing that other person can say or do will take them away. I don't hold with the idea that a person can seduce or coerce someone into falling for them....and especially not manipulate them out of the love they hold for another.
So, even if your spouse's girlfriend thinks your husband will ultimately leave you for her, my thought is it's her problem, not yours. Be honest with her, of course, don't lead her into thinking this is the case, but if she refuses to see reality....I fail to see why you should care if she ultimately gets disappointed or heartbroken when she realizes it's not gonna happen. Does that sound cruel?
While I understand that, my take on cowboys/cowgirls is: who cares? You can't control what other people think. Say that your partner's OSO believes they can steal him/her away. Unless your partner is willing to abandon you, nothing that other person can say or do will take them away. I don't hold with the idea that a person can seduce or coerce someone into falling for them....and especially not manipulate them out of the love they hold for another.
So, even if your spouse's girlfriend thinks your husband will ultimately leave you for her, my thought is it's her problem, not yours. Be honest with her, of course, don't lead her into thinking this is the case, but if she refuses to see reality....I fail to see why you should care if she ultimately gets disappointed or heartbroken when she realizes it's not gonna happen. Does that sound cruel?