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Old 03-15-2019, 07:40 PM
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Congrats! People deserve to have good sex once in a while, damn it!

Still, you had yahtzee (phaha, your joke with the video is good) in the family house, I guess? Does his wife live there? Did you see her stuff, did you two talk about that?

I mean, you don't need to straight away but eventually this conversation needs to happen, in my opinion.
Also, keep close attention to how much personal stuff you share and how much personal stuff does he share, not just topics about the universe and the world. He could be fact collecting you, in order to know how you think and function.

No need to answer here, just keep close attention to these things.
Pardon my paranoia again! Keep us updated, if you want to, of course.

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Old 03-15-2019, 09:46 PM
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He could be fact collecting you, in order to know how you think and function.
Fact collecting me? It sounds like you suspect him of nefarious reasons for asking me questions. But I "fact collected" him, too. In fact, we've been sharing thousands of bits of information about one another -- and that's simply what normal, healthy people do when they are getting to know one another -- because they like one another.

I suspect that you suspect this guy is some kind of narcissist or sociopath or something. And I suspect you suspect this 'cause you got taken in and hurt by a narcissist or a sociopath. I'm sorry you got hurt by someone who can't experience normal human empathy and compassion.

But my friend is anything but such a person. His kindness and warmth are palpable and real. That's why I opened up with him rather quickly, trusted him and grew fond of him.

Still, I will use appropriate caution and keep my intuitive capacities sharp. After all, we've only known one another briefly. But I like him. And he likes me. And that's a good thing!
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