Big huge sigh; hmmm, could it be that this thread has taken a turn back for the better after all? Ahhh, then the mods won't have to lock it. Everybody wins (and I do mean that).
Yeah, "Help, get me up on this shelf by the ceiling and keep me safe from the madness," is right. Meika gets what's what around here!
@ Dirtclustit ... wow, either you successfully boggled me with sarcasm the likes of which I'd never known could be, or you've graced upon me a profound state of surprise and relief (and I do mean that).
Don't suppose perchance humor drove some of your recent expressions? If so then, damn, I thought I knew my humor. I'm, duly embarrassed for taking it the wrong way. Sorry. Kinda cool though, to think that I might have new stuff to learn about laughs: coz I likes me some laughs, and likes learning about them too.
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"... if any of your animals have a bad habit of breaking and entering ..."
Eh heh heh; I fancy I correctly perceive that post title as a humorous one (and if not, pardon begged ...). Yes exactly: I gots to keep my pets indoors due to their habit of stealing the neighbors' stuff, snooping into their private records, infesting their computers with newly-coded viruses, and knocking over their houseplants for good measure.
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"It isn't right of me to make all sorts of slanderous accusations and then not be willing to go into detail."
Thank you; details and examples do often help me get a clue about how to do better (and comprehend a subject better as well).
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"My sense of humor isn't always appropriate so I can understand how either you were being light-hearted or I was being oversensitive."
Oh my yes, that's exactly it: I was acting quite light-hearted (no doubt in poor taste, the lack of common social sense being a talent of mine). While not using my past to excuse myself per se, I still desire to draw attention to it, particularly that part where I and my siblings collectively developed the (dysfunctional) coping mechanism of finding ways to laugh it up when the chips were down. So sometimes, when I sense I'm in deep do do, rather than making an angry display I'll prefer to make a comedic display, in hopes of "tricking" everyone into filling their lungs with a new bounty of fresh air, and with that distraction, perhaps pausing for a moment to get perspective and a reality check. So if my motives are twisted, they're still sincere.
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"It's not wise of me to always answer as I would as an individual, not unless it was a personal circumstance and certainly not on a poly site where making it a point to disagree doesn't help anybody who may be looking for help."
Right because, disagreeing is essentially harmless, but making a "point" to disagree tends to turn words into sharp nasty pointy things that get stabbed into people (even if the stabbing wasn't meant as such). So I always like to plead: Everyone, everyone, please disagree gently and respectfully as much as possible. Please don't resort to all-caps, put-downs, etc., to drive your point home. Just calmly/considerately make your point and then kindly back away to make room for others to have fair turn and opportunity to share how they think and feel about it. This way, what might have been a depressing argument, turns into an encouraging exchange of diverse ideas. Gosh, don'tcha think that sounds a lot nicer? I sure do.
Ahem, and in conclusion: Thank you for your merciful words, I was in dire need of a dose of that (and I do mean that).
Respectfully (but light-heartedly),
Kevin T.
P.S. It finally happened, I finished catching up on
*all* internet to-do items, even the Polyamory.com items, closed my overworked internet window, deleted my cookies and my history and my ... ahhh, can't tell you what self-congratulating satisfaction that paid me. For the first time in weeks I slept like a baby. So yay for the little triumphs in life!
Regards to all,
Kevin.