After discussing an open marriage for the past four years, my husband and I have finally agreed to give it a try. There is a guy I work with who I'm almost 99% confident that he would sleep with me if I asked him. He, too, is married, but I don't think he is in an open marriage. I'm naturally a bit shy, so I don't really know how to approach him. I figured I would ask him to get drinks some night after work and just go from there. However, I'm confused as to whether I should tell him that I'm in this lifestyle, of if he will think it is totally weird. Or, should I just let him think that he and I are having an affair? He makes all sorts of sexual comments to me and I catch him checking me out all the time, so I'm betting he would do it. I guess I need to know how to get the ball rolling and what to tell this guy.