fortunafox
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I'm 29, married, in a non-monogamous relationship. My husband and I are both bisexual but both of us have had more heterosexual than homosexual experiences. We have a daughter who just turned 2.
I highly recommend The Ethical Slut to my poly and monogamous friends, as it has been extremely helpful in negotiating boundaries and feelings within my marriage, which began as monogamous and has since branched out, undergoing different levels of transformation (first open to same-sex for each of us, than open to hetero- relationships). It's become something of our relationship Bible, along with Positive Discipline parenting techniques.
I have had experiences in the past where people used the label of an 'open relationship' as an excuse to fool around with whomever without necessarily respecting the other partner's feelings. My first threesome involved a couple where I suspect the girlfriend was going along with her boyfriend's desires instead of voicing her own, and that she really wanted to be monogamous. I suspect this because of her distance from and then rejection of me, then the boyfriend.
Since then, I have played very carefully. I don't wear my poly-ness on my sleeve, even in the local poly community, because of the tendency especially for men to assume that I'm DTF (down to F*#k) when I disclose the nature of our relationship.
I love listening to experimental and eclectic music, I'm co-founding a CUUPS chapter in my community (go to cuups.org if you're curious) and art, writing and music are very important creative outlets for me. Message me if you have questions, or if you're in the area and would like to meet!
Loves,
F
I'm 29, married, in a non-monogamous relationship. My husband and I are both bisexual but both of us have had more heterosexual than homosexual experiences. We have a daughter who just turned 2.
I highly recommend The Ethical Slut to my poly and monogamous friends, as it has been extremely helpful in negotiating boundaries and feelings within my marriage, which began as monogamous and has since branched out, undergoing different levels of transformation (first open to same-sex for each of us, than open to hetero- relationships). It's become something of our relationship Bible, along with Positive Discipline parenting techniques.
I have had experiences in the past where people used the label of an 'open relationship' as an excuse to fool around with whomever without necessarily respecting the other partner's feelings. My first threesome involved a couple where I suspect the girlfriend was going along with her boyfriend's desires instead of voicing her own, and that she really wanted to be monogamous. I suspect this because of her distance from and then rejection of me, then the boyfriend.
Since then, I have played very carefully. I don't wear my poly-ness on my sleeve, even in the local poly community, because of the tendency especially for men to assume that I'm DTF (down to F*#k) when I disclose the nature of our relationship.
I love listening to experimental and eclectic music, I'm co-founding a CUUPS chapter in my community (go to cuups.org if you're curious) and art, writing and music are very important creative outlets for me. Message me if you have questions, or if you're in the area and would like to meet!
Loves,
F